Awesome Username Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Hi guys it's AU. I left the message boards for a while because I was heartbroken and didn't want to do anything, but after a while it went away. It still bugs me sometimes at night, but the horrible heartbreak feeling of nothing being able to make me happy has subsided. It takes a long time, and time is really the only real healer. It helps to remember that heartbreak is really just chemical. It helps to read stuff like this: http://people.howstuffworks.com/love1.htm and books like "Why we Love" to realize that chemicals in our head are making us crazy instead of the person of whom the heart has broken for. A lot of what we're depressed about is what our mind fantasized that the person could be for us rather than the person him/herself. When people are in love they have increased levels of dopamine but decreased levels of serotonin. When they're heartbroken, they have a decreased level of dopamine and retain the decreased levels of serotonin. A low level of serotonin basically makes people obsess over things. People with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder have low serotonin levels, for example. Some of the things that you can do to increase your level of serotonin is moderate (not vigorous) exercise, eat meats that have a lot of tryptophan like turkey, and spending time in the sun. Apparently getting on a normal sleep-wake cycle and prayer/meditation also increases serotonin for some people. Basically if you boost your broken heart with a little bit of serotonin you will literally be less heartbroken. For a while it's going to be very hard, but keep doing the things that make you happy and give yourself a lot of time to get over it. Go easy on yourself as well, and do what you can to let any guilty feelings go. Try to stay away from hard drugs or alcohol because they make the atmosphere where you could possible raise lacking chemicals in your brain harder to work with, and you might end up feeling bad longer. Good luck, everyone with a broken heart. This too shall pass. <3
skydiveaddict Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 (edited) HiGood luck, everyone with a broken heart. This too shall pass. <3 Yea, But when? It's been too long for me. It's becoming ridiculous. I need your help, anyone's help to get over this. I'm at the point where heartbreak becomes irrational. It's stealing my life away from me and I hate it Edited October 11, 2010 by skydiveaddict
Author Awesome Username Posted October 11, 2010 Author Posted October 11, 2010 Yea, But when? It's been too long for me. It's becoming ridiculous. I need your help, anyone's help to get over this. I'm at the point where heartbreak becomes irrational. It's stealing my life away from me and I hate it How long has it been?
health Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Yea, But when? It's been too long for me. It's becoming ridiculous. I need your help, anyone's help to get over this. I'm at the point where heartbreak becomes irrational. It's stealing my life away from me and I hate it That's the problem right there. You're looking for external sources to make you better. That's short term and outside you like drugs. Getting help from others is good. In the end it's your responsibility to heal and be happy. It's almost 2 years since my break up. I'm a lot better now, and still committed to healing. Awesome Username - Thanks for the great info!
True Love Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Thanks for sharing that channel on how it works, really good bit of information.
skydiveaddict Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 How was your mood before the dark times? Before you got back from the war? Before the met her in the first place? I admit I had a lot of trouble from the war (PTSD) Her being gone was just the last straw. Signed Mr. Basketcase
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