an unfair ultimatum for me

[benkish]

I have been in a longdistance relationship for 2 years, im 23 years old and so is she. We've had some communication problems but we are still or were together. I've been waiting for her to graduate from school and then we are going to move in with her, i've proposed to her(without a ring) which caused a huge deal. Im adhd, and me and her met in rehab. Basically, our relationship is to a point to where if i dont move there then it iss me who is breaking us up. She doesnt want to speak to me on the phone or text or on the computer. I want to go, but if i do i will be disowned by my dad who funds my professional golf career. She also wants to have a ring before we move in together. Me giving up everything i have to show this girl how much i really care for and it still might not be enough. i know that this is very brief but its something to start with, time to catch some zzzzzzz's

[LittleTiger]

At your age I think you should concentrate on your golf career.

 

You have to get yourself and your life in order before you make any committment to a relationship with another person.

 

It sounds as though she is deliberately making it hard on you so that you feel you have to move - totally unfair. If she loved you she would want what's best for you and moving to be with her is not what's best for you at this time. Your Dad is using the 'disowning you card' because he's desperate to stop you making a big mistake. I can understand his reasoning.

 

She also seems a little too concerned about the ring. If she loves you she should understand your situation and be happy that you want to marry her - the jewellery is not important.

 

You're right that 'it still might not be enough' so do you really want to take the risk of throwing everything away for a girl who might not even be a part of your future?

[lizzibeth]

I totally agree with Tiger....If you don't pursue your golf I suspect you'll resent her later and have many regrets.

 

The ring thing put a sour taste in my mouth.