dragonsman Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 hey just wanted to get some others opinions. me and my partner had been together 6 years (im 23 and she 21), me being her only sexual partner. we are currently both 4 weeks away from graduating university, and have been talking about buying a house together in the near future. recently we had been fighting alot mainly over little things, but including me being and arsehole not letting her go out with friends. then BAM 4 weeks ago she says she needs space. she doesnt know how she feels. for the next week i try and rationalise with her, take her out for dinner, we were intimate on several occassions. everytime i asked her what was going on she would either say, she doesnt know im backing her into a corner, or she couldnt have this conversation. then after about 2 weeks i stopped talking to her for a few days, then sent her an email saying that i no longer felt the same for her and that i couldnt be strung along like this and that it was over. she immediately rang me abused me telling me she hadnt loved me for 12 months and wanted out of the relationship for ages. told me heaps of other **** (i didnt believe any of it, and new she was just trying to hurt me). we then left it at that and werent going to speak again. then at midnight that night she sends me a text blaming me for everything. i left it for a week. then i sent her a text saying a final goodbye, dunno y she has a dilirious thought i want other women, and that she is stuffing me around. she wrote back i dont know what u want me to do. i said all i want is honesty. she offered to come round to my house. she then said she felt like right now she loves me but isnt in love with me and doesnt know what she wants. she said she hasnt left me for another man, isnt interested in any other men and im the only 1 she wants. she also said she hopes she falls in love with me again. the next day i sent her a text saying thanks for saying one final goodbye etc. she replied saying everything she said was true, and the door isnt shut, and no matter how much it is hurting both of us we really need this right now. she said she just wants whatever to happen in the future happen. i replied with, "im not finished with u yet see u round" and she responded with , "hehe :D". any ideas or thoughts? am i clinging to false hope? should i just let it chill for awhile? is she stuffing me around? is she confused? Link to post Share on other sites
Mad Max Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 She found someone else. 6 years, so she probably wants to play the field. Grass is greener syndrome. Don't take her back. If she left you that easily, she'll do it again if you take her back. Move on and find someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dragonsman Posted October 11, 2010 Author Share Posted October 11, 2010 no. i know she is not seeing anyone else. this is not an option. as much as ppl say it, i have inside eyes everywhere. my best mate is her sisters bf. there is no1 else Link to post Share on other sites
Mad Max Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 no. i know she is not seeing anyone else. this is not an option. as much as ppl say it, i have inside eyes everywhere. my best mate is her sisters bf. there is no1 else There's no way for anyone to know she's not seeing someone. She could easily keep it on the DL. Link to post Share on other sites
alliance_820 Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 There's no way for anyone to know she's not seeing someone. She could easily keep it on the DL. Dude, not all girls are like that. There is a way to know. You ever here of being a good christian? It may sound cliche, but not all girls find someone else when they end it. Sometimes they actually do just have other stuff going on and get confused. People on here keep saying she's moved on or found someone else. It isn't always the case. What I would do in this case, is maybe give it a week or 2 of not talking to her, give her something to miss. Let her figure out what she wants. If you constantly talk to her she will continue to feel like youre pressuring her or backing her into a corner. Just give her some time. Link to post Share on other sites
SadGirl23 Posted October 11, 2010 Share Posted October 11, 2010 (edited) Not trying to get your hopes up, but I can't stand when someone immediately throws out, "Oh the person is with someone else". Probably 7 out of 10 that is possible, but who knows really!?! My ex of 5 years, same age as you, broke up with me 2 months ago and still constantly reminds me that he is not seeing anyone. Now, I don't know why he have to volunteer to tell me that information over and over and over.. maybe guilt? maybe he is straight up lying??.. I don't know.. I guess I'll take it as he is just confused and wanting time to himself. So, maybe she just wants time to herself. You guys are about to graduate and what not.. maybe she just needs to get a taste of what life is like by herself and her new career. Selfish, yeah because they just throw away the relationship, but I would just keep it moving and focus on yourself. If she comes back, fine, if not.. well you'll already be on your way. Edited October 11, 2010 by SadGirl23 Link to post Share on other sites
Author dragonsman Posted October 11, 2010 Author Share Posted October 11, 2010 There's no way for anyone to know she's not seeing someone. She could easily keep it on the DL. she is not seeing anyone else. i can guarantee it. she is certainly not that sort of person, and if she had of left me for another person she would of told me Link to post Share on other sites
Author dragonsman Posted October 11, 2010 Author Share Posted October 11, 2010 Dude, not all girls are like that. There is a way to know. You ever here of being a good christian? It may sound cliche, but not all girls find someone else when they end it. Sometimes they actually do just have other stuff going on and get confused. People on here keep saying she's moved on or found someone else. It isn't always the case. What I would do in this case, is maybe give it a week or 2 of not talking to her, give her something to miss. Let her figure out what she wants. If you constantly talk to her she will continue to feel like youre pressuring her or backing her into a corner. Just give her some time. yeah i was maybe thinking of giving it until the end of uni and see what happens from there? Link to post Share on other sites
Author dragonsman Posted October 11, 2010 Author Share Posted October 11, 2010 any other thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Author dragonsman Posted October 17, 2010 Author Share Posted October 17, 2010 (edited) anyone else? since splitting up, ive been trying to keep as much distance as possible from her. (havent spoken to her or anything). however as i have previously stated, my best mate is her sisters bf. so he has been telling me a few things. she has been having lots of girls nights out (but not out clubbing just dinner and ****) and spending lots of time studying Edited October 17, 2010 by dragonsman Link to post Share on other sites
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