hellhathnofury Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Priests are trained professionals, and are expected to follow a code, much like doctors and psychologists and counselers. Just like people in other professions, there are a few bad apples and some do unprofessional things, but overall, you shouldn't have anything to fear. From my PoV and in relation to my post, it's not their scruples or embarrassment I'm worried about. it's mine. I'm not a trained professional in confessing my sins, and I don't follow a code.... So if there's awkwardness, embarrassment and discomfort, it's mine. I can't see a priest relating to another priest something shocking he heard in confession... I can. And have. If you do get sexually involved outside of marriage or in a committed relationship, know you can be forgiven. That's if you view it as sinful in the first place. Not everyone does. I used to attend church with a woman in the congregation, I know is a prostitute. I also happen to know she rarely either went, or goes to confession...... It's all a matter of personal perspective.
Floridaman Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 (edited) From my PoV and in relation to my post, it's not their scruples or embarrassment I'm worried about. it's mine. I'm not a trained professional in confessing my sins, and I don't follow a code.... So if there's awkwardness, embarrassment and discomfort, it's mine. So she has nothing to fear... I was talking about how they would treat a confessor, much like a doctor who might secretly take photos of their naked female patients or sexually molest one that's under ether (you do hear that in the news now and then). ME: If you do get sexually involved outside of marriage or in a committed relationship, know you can be forgiven. That's if you view it as sinful in the first place. Not everyone does. I am well aware of how people have different views on that, obviously. And not all Christians believe or strictly follow that. I have admited on LS how as a single adult I didn't always adhere to a "no sex before marriage" practice. We're talking about confession here. I told her how I think what she has done so far isn't morally wrong. Maybe she lusted for this guy in her heart. If she thinks light sex play is sinful, then logically, the more heavy stuff like oral or going all the way could be even more sinful. The OP apparently thinks it's wrong, hence my discussion of that aspect. This is the religion and spirituality section after all. Edited October 12, 2010 by Floridaman
Author Penny91 Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 Florida ia very understanding and considerate. I hope to privately communicate with him sometine, Others have been nice too.
Floridaman Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 (edited) Florida ia very understanding and considerate. I hope to privately communicate with him sometine, Others have been nice too. Maybe she lusted for this guy in her heart. If she thinks light sex play is sinful, then logically, the more heavy stuff like oral or going all the way could be even more sinful. The OP apparently thinks it's wrong, hence my discussion of that aspect. This is the religion and spirituality section after all. Penny, I hope you didn't think I was saying or thought you lusted for that guy or anything. Those were hypotheticals or guesses why someone might want to confess. And if you did, that's certainly understandable. If I were that close to a woman in the kind of situation you've been in with your guy, I'd likely lust heavily (and physically want to do a lot more) with her... You may be trying to keep your emotions out of it while you learn about sex... I don't think what you did was necessarily sinful, but you may. I was responding to the other poster. Edited October 13, 2010 by Floridaman
Joe Normal Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I wonder if anyone has "trolled" a priest in confession? Like confessing to increasingly ludicrous and sinful acts, just to see what the reaction would be? I think I have a new idea for next April Fool's
hellhathnofury Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I used to make stuff up, because I couldn't think of anything to say.... I mean, after a while, if you know you go to confession, and the Priest gives you absolution by telling you to recite this, and say that, and do the other, next Sunday, you begin to realise, as a kid, that you're going to run out of new stuff to add....Because when you're a kid, some of the stuff described as 'sinful' really doesn't seem all that big a deal. It gets repetitive.... And in comparison to some adult shenanigans, it really isn't.......
quankanne Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 do they still make you recite X number of prayers as penance? The last times I went, it was more like a job review – "Tell me what *you* think is a fitting response," etc. And that was even harder because you really had to think of a proper penance!
Floridaman Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 (edited) From my PoV and in relation to my post, it's not their scruples or embarrassment I'm worried about. it's mine. I'm not a trained professional in confessing my sins, and I don't follow a code.... So if there's awkwardness, embarrassment and discomfort, it's mine. I can. And have. That's if you view it as sinful in the first place. Not everyone does. I used to attend church with a woman in the congregation, I know is a prostitute. I also happen to know she rarely either went, or goes to confession...... It's all a matter of personal perspective. Regarding the prostitute, confession is all up to the individual. Perhaps she didn't want to again hear (and she is naturally feeling uncomfortable over this) how her behavior was wrong. I am certain some priests, like some lawyers, doctors and Indian chiefs talk about their pateients or customers later with their colleagues. I'm sure they don't use names. A lifeguard might say later, "did you see that hot blonde? What a body..." That's normal. I just don't see it being a major problem. If I had something to confess, I wouldn't let any of this trivial matters deter me from seeing a priest in confession. Edited October 14, 2010 by Floridaman
hellhathnofury Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 do they still make you recite X number of prayers as penance? The last times I went, it was more like a job review – "Tell me what *you* think is a fitting response," etc. And that was even harder because you really had to think of a proper penance! Heck, I dunno...It's years since I went. I figure the Catholic Church is a lot more rife with gluttony, avarice, lust and pride than I am. Priests go to confession too, but it still goes on....Still, it seems God forgives anything if you go to confession, absolution is readily available. So why even bother?
skydiveaddict Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Still, it seems God forgives anything if you go to confession, absolution is readily available. So why even bother? Because to gain forgiveness you must have absolution. Readily available or not
Floridaman Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 (edited) FROM ME: Priests are trained professionals, and are expected to follow a code, much like doctors and psychologists and counselers. Just like people in other professions, there are a few bad apples and some do unprofessional things, but overall, you shouldn't have anything to fear. From my PoV and in relation to my post, it's not their scruples or embarrassment I'm worried about. it's mine. I'm not a trained professional in confessing my sins, and I don't follow a code.... So if there's awkwardness, embarrassment and discomfort, it's mine. I can. And have. That's if you view it as sinful in the first place. Not everyone does. Misunderstood you. I thought you had some kind of fear of priests gossiping or talking about you behind your back. They're people too just like some lifeguard or doctor. It seems like you have the embarassment or hangup here. As much as you and others (myself included) chat on these boards, I couldn't see how spilling your guts would be a problem... That's all supposed to be in confidence, much like talking to a psychologist or counselor, so no one should fear anything. I admit though I've never been in confession.. And regarding the "sin" view, I'd wager many people hold that view and believe such activity is wrong, although they don't necessarily hold themselves to that rule. Edited October 26, 2010 by Floridaman
Floridaman Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 I'm sorry. It's just that now I have the image in my head and it won't go away. It's ok. But to address some things that you implied... I would NOT jump on someone for their spiritual or religious beliefs, far from it. As for me understanding what religion and spirituality is, read my profile. What I said to Penny was honestly and genuinely the first thing I thought. Couldn't help it. Haven't read any of her posts other than the balloon sex and sybian thing. Gals, this confession of my own is gonna lower your respect for me, but when I first saw the sybian post, I thought sybian meant some kind of a cat!!:o:o I had no idea of what that was until I read closer and then it came to me. Though I wasn't a virgin before I got married, I am very inexperienced compared to some of the gals on this thread!! Penny, you think you're naive on sexual things but look at what I thought about sybians! Lisa- I hadn't read any of your profile until you pointed it out to me. You do know a lot about religious things.
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