LoveTNT Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Not that I'm crying all day, but I do cry a few times through out the week. Been broken up for 2 months and a week and I've been total nc for a bit over a month. After I cry I feel a bit better. Yes I know it's part of the healing process, it's just sad. I guess since he reached out and I chose to stay nc it stirred up emotions.. I am doing better though, time does heal... Dang memories can stir it all up and the tears start flowing. Do you still cry? How many times a week? Are you just numb?
skydiveaddict Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Dang memories can stir it all up and the tears start flowing. I know exactly what you mean
Username37 Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Ehh I use to cry a lot. Now it's just anger.
collegeguy_24 Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I cry, a lot. I am not ashamed to admit, but my moods alternate at crying for losing the love of my life, and anger at her new BF and things he's done and is continuing to do.
Trovador Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I didn't cry but I fell into a deep depression... now I am fine... It hurts to know that my crime was to make an extra call, to insist on another date, to buy her a gift too many (just twice) and to enter in panic mode when she pulled away due to my "excessive attachment"... You'll soon be immune to memories' allergy... just give yourself a chance to heal...
thatsonlyme Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I used to cry at least once a day, usually at night when I was alone in the bed or driving home from work. Now I still cry sometimes, but most of the time I'm ok. I still do think about her, us and everything that happened almost all the time. I hardly can think about anything else.
SadGirl23 Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I used to cry everyday, probably 5 times a day. But at 2.5 mths since the breakup, I probably cry maybe if once a week. If anything, I am more angry as to how dare this fool hurt me the way he did. Owes me money too! I'm an adult, but I still have my dad who will kick his as$ if my ex fxcks with my feelings one more time!
Whatsagirltodo Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I cry almost everyday.. I'd say a couple times a day. They aren't like full out break downs, but I tend to get overwhelmed about my situation and I guess crying it out makes me feel better. It might still be too early for me and how much I cry will begin to span out but it still sucks none the less. I just feel pathetic most of the time. He probably doesn't give one **** and here I am crying all the time. Can't wait for the day that I don't care anymore.
Author LoveTNT Posted October 11, 2010 Author Posted October 11, 2010 Thanks lovelies for sharing... I just got back from a night out with my friends. Made them drop me off at my car early. They were going to another bar o In Hollywood. I had a cute outfit guys were talking to me and it looked like a good deal from the outside, but honestly all I wanted to do was come home, I thought I was going to have a typical bed time CRY but I haven't, Im just looking forward to next next week when my exes bday (16th) has passed. It kinda sets a mark to get over it even more so when his bday has passed. 2tearsinabucket.
True Love Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Only time can heal things like that, but i think his birthday does mark a good place to start a fresh. Get on some sexy outfit and go to the bar with expectations your going to pull and more than likely you will be taking someone home.
Leandro Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I cry may be 2 times a week, but I'm starting to think that I'm just numb now.
jeff2321 Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I've been 5 weeks NC and I cried yesterday coming home from work. It was pitiful. I used to cry everyday now it's just when I get triggered by a song, something that reminds me of her, or if I think about the great loving sex we had. I'm convinced that I will never be able to find what I had with L ever again and it just makes me sad. Jeff
thatsonlyme Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I'm convinced that I will never be able to find what I had with L ever again and it just makes me sad. Jeff I'm absolutely sure I'll never be able to find what I had in her ever again. I just can't afford lowering my guard all the way down the way I did it with her. I will never be able to trust anyone as much as I trusted her. I will probably find a better person and I will be happy but there will always be a shadow of doubt. It just doesn't get any better than this. I will never give anybody everything I got. IT's just too risky.
Leandro Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I'm absolutely sure I'll never be able to find what I had in her ever again. I just can't afford lowering my guard all the way down the way I did it with her. I will never be able to trust anyone as much as I trusted her. I will probably find a better person and I will be happy but there will always be a shadow of doubt. It just doesn't get any better than this. I will never give anybody everything I got. IT's just too risky. yea same here.
Author LoveTNT Posted October 11, 2010 Author Posted October 11, 2010 I was doing good for about 3 weeks into this NC round, but this passed week+ has been emotional again. I know it's a roller-coaster. The anger, sadness, moments you smile thinking about silly times, confusion, resentment, frustration, sexual frustration... I have dated since, I've kissed another guy but blah!... Oh my and he is hung (yipes) but I've been a good Birdie! Staying strong! haha BUT I haven't had sex and not because I can't, but because I know I'll just feel really bad. I'm respecting myself and the healing process. I want to make sure I go about it right this time and not just jump into rebound mode, that's foolish and I've gotten into some mess in past experiences with that. Can't do the monkey thing, swinging on one branch to the next etc.... Ugh! How I miss this man.... His b-day is on the 16th... :/ Sorry M, but I won't be reaching out... I can't risk feeling new hurt. I just want to scream really loud, cry my eyes out, feel so high off crying so much, laugh about it, then have some ice cream and lay out on a grass field full of snap dragons, dragon flies and golden butterflies... The end.
cb9343 Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 mine has been about w week since he contacted me about dinner before he leaves for the guard.. i should not have responded once i responded he never did again.. it feels like a game. i feel bad like i am closing the door if i dont but he has ALLOT of growing up to do.. he has not accepted me as who i am an when things get a little tough he runs.. i dont cry that much but i did drink this past weekend which is a HUGE mistake.. should i respond again about dinner or just let it go... still love him but he left me and my three year old who is not his but treated as if he was.. he broke up with me in a 2 min conversation.. thats all i was worthh. my emotions are all over the place... any advice?
ShannonMI Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Not that I'm crying all day, but I do cry a few times through out the week. Been broken up for 2 months and a week and I've been total nc for a bit over a month. After I cry I feel a bit better. Yes I know it's part of the healing process, it's just sad. I guess since he reached out and I chose to stay nc it stirred up emotions.. I am doing better though, time does heal... Dang memories can stir it all up and the tears start flowing. Do you still cry? How many times a week? Are you just numb? I cry a 2 or 3 times a week. It's been about 5 months since he dumped me. Usually I cry while I'm driving home from work or right before I fall asleep. It's usually the memories that make me cry and the thought of him being with someone else now. It still hurts so bad. Also, I think about his family who I loved with all of my heart. I miss them and that makes me a bit emotional as well.
ShannonMI Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I used to cry at least once a day, usually at night when I was alone in the bed or driving home from work. Now I still cry sometimes, but most of the time I'm ok. I still do think about her, us and everything that happened almost all the time. I hardly can think about anything else. Sounds exactly like me. Most of the time I'm ok, but I still have my moments:(
TLCbear Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Do you still cry? How many times a week? Are you just numb? Not really, more like shedding little tear drops from time to time in a day because it's sad that the relationship had to go south due to his incability to change.
Author LoveTNT Posted October 11, 2010 Author Posted October 11, 2010 mine has been about w week since he contacted me about dinner before he leaves for the guard.. i should not have responded once i responded he never did again.. it feels like a game. i feel bad like i am closing the door if i dont but he has ALLOT of growing up to do.. he has not accepted me as who i am an when things get a little tough he runs.. i dont cry that much but i did drink this past weekend which is a HUGE mistake.. should i respond again about dinner or just let it go... still love him but he left me and my three year old who is not his but treated as if he was.. he broke up with me in a 2 min conversation.. thats all i was worth. my emotions are all over the place... any advice? Drinking, big mistake. I did this for the first few weekends and realized every Sunday was hell. Crying and feeling anxious, text him and he would call and I would vent, but nothing changed. Don't drink until you feel like you can handle it better. DO NOT CONTACT HIM. I know it hurts, yes the what if's start coming into play full throttle, but you cannot lose respect for yourself and your child! you are worth more! If he really wants to see you before he leaves he WILL come to your door or call to ask to see you. You responded already, and it's obvious the douche is confused and playing games. You're healing, keep moving forward.
cb9343 Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Drinking, big mistake. I did this for the first few weekends and realized every Sunday was hell. Crying and feeling anxious, text him and he would call and I would vent, but nothing changed. Don't drink until you feel like you can handle it better. DO NOT CONTACT HIM. I know it hurts, yes the what if's start coming into play full throttle, but you cannot lose respect for yourself and your child! you are worth more! If he really wants to see you before he leaves he WILL come to your door or call to ask to see you. You responded already, and it's obvious the douche is confused and playing games. You're healing, keep moving forward. i am starting to feel like i am def. better than a text.. i was insecure and nervous not a ton but somtimes.. i know this relationship was not all my fault.. you dont walk away when the going gets tough... it is my time to be selfish.. what should i do if he does call?
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