tobydog Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I posted before about our break up. He does not wish to speak to me and has only seen his beloved son for an hour in the last few weeks. He has filed for divorce. I have quit drinking and am seeing a counsellor and taking anti depressants. But it's been nearly a month now and I am very ill still. can't eat or barely function except sleep, whilst my son is at school. I can't live like this much longer. I have not contacted him. I have lots of friends but cannot live like this. Any help please?
Kallen Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Hi, I know what youre going through. I think it will take time...I am hoping that time DOES heal all wounds. Maybe your ex needs a little break before talking with you to clear his head. Don't give up! K
Jane Doe Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 You have lots of friends. Utilize them! Laying in bed all day isn't going to help you at all. Get out there and get some emotional support from friends and family. Keep yourself busy. Being active will occupy your mind and stop you from focusing on this 24/7. Have you considered seeing a counselor? I think it would help. Hang in there! I know it feels like hell right now but you won't feel this way forever. You have to take action!
You Go Girl Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 You are taking the right steps! Stop beating yourself up for not becoming super woman in a month's time! You are adjusting to giving up alcohol, adjusting to a separation, and adjusting to being on anti-depressants, and all at the same time! Woman, you already ARE wonder woman just by having those three things going on simultaneously! You are probably going through the most difficult time of your life. Give yourself a chance to catch up to all the changes. Let him know that you are on anti-depressants and have given up alcohol, if you haven't. He does need to know that you are trying to fix what was out of balance with you. That he isn't seeing his son is troublesome. Maybe fire off an email where you type your son's words for him. I'm assuming your son is missing his father. I don't know your son's age, but if he's too young to type a letter, then have him draw a picture for his dad, and mail it to him! Keep doing what you are doing for your physical and mental health. It all will get better...one day at a time. Have patience! It really will get better!
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