Darby5126 Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Caught my "supposed GF"'s car was at another dude's place. Someone she had described to me as a "friend". The car had obviously been there overnight. I cant tolerate this so obviously need to cut ties. We supposedly have a date for Monday. This will be a good face to face opportunity to either confront her/just date her casually for FWB, or just tell her the relationship just isnt working out and need to move on, just to avoid a bad scene.
amerikajin Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Caught my "supposed GF"'s car was at another dude's place. Someone she had described to me as a "friend". The car had obviously been there overnight. I cant tolerate this so obviously need to cut ties. We supposedly have a date for Monday. This will be a good face to face opportunity to either confront her/just date her casually for FWB, or just tell her the relationship just isnt working out and need to move on, just to avoid a bad scene. Just out of curiosity, are you guys just casually dating right now, or is it clear that there's exclusivity? I wouldn't be thrilled with her slumbering over at someone's house regardless, but I might not be as upset if the relationship was in its early stages.
Angel1111 Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 If you would consider a fwb relationship with her, then you're not that into her anyway. I don't think either of you care that much about one another. I say just end it without making a scene. She'll probably lie about why she was there all night so be prepared for that.
Norville_Rogers Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I read your other post and my suggestion is to just dump her and move on. I wouldn't even go out with her on Monday. I would show up at her place that night and tell her at the door that you're not taking her out and the reason why and then turn around and walk away without hearing any of her excuses. Then I would go out and have a fantastic dinner by myself to celebrate not being a pussy.
yamanbt Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I read your other post and my suggestion is to just dump her and move on. I wouldn't even go out with her on Monday. I would show up at her place that night and tell her at the door that you're not taking her out and the reason why and then turn around and walk away without hearing any of her excuses. Then I would go out and have a fantastic dinner by myself to celebrate not being a pussy. ^^^Well Said.
thatsonlyme Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I read your other post and my suggestion is to just dump her and move on. I wouldn't even go out with her on Monday. I would show up at her place that night and tell her at the door that you're not taking her out and the reason why and then turn around and walk away without hearing any of her excuses. Then I would go out and have a fantastic dinner by myself to celebrate not being a pussy. ^^completely agree! I don't want to thread jack but what is all this "exclusivity" thing about? If we started dating/making out/having sex I consider it exclusive unless you made it clear in advance that you're just FWB. Even if you still don't love each other I think other person deserves a chance and messing with somebody else is just showing that person is not considering you seriously. That's just my opinion but if I had intentions with one person I wouldn't be looking for alternatives.
amerikajin Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 ^^completely agree! I don't want to thread jack but what is all this "exclusivity" thing about? If we started dating/making out/having sex I consider it exclusive unless you made it clear in advance that you're just FWB. Even if you still don't love each other I think other person deserves a chance and messing with somebody else is just showing that person is not considering you seriously. That's just my opinion but if I had intentions with one person I wouldn't be looking for alternatives. I agree, that's probably how I would see it, too. But, not everyone sees it that way. I guess I'm just saying that before he gets wound up maybe it's a good idea to understand where the other person is at in terms of how they see the relationship. He can still end it, but he doesn't have to get angry about it necessarily, unless there's already been an understanding about whether there's exclusivity or not.
TLCbear Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 If you need some type of closure, break up with her face and face and tell her why, if not, just disappear without saying a word...she's fully aware of what she has been doing, so she'll figure it out. Just make sure you're not going to go back. I see so many people break up with someone only to pop up out the blue and want the person back.
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