brittneyfoster Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 So my ex and I have a two year old together and have been living together nearly two years. However, I just can't deal with him anymore...and I feel with a pending graduation from grad school and talking with him...I just feel as though he serves his best interests and really doesn't appreciate what I tried to be for him. I've lost ANY cool and at this point, it's all rage and anger and I want to yell/scream at him. Even since the breakup, things haven't gotten worse. He refuses to leave because he says that he has no where to go. He says that this home is just as much his as it is mine. However, the house that was mostly dirtied by him and our two year old needed to be cleaned the other day. He has been known to clean up the house in efforts to make me happy or after huge blowouts. However, this is a problem because we split bills in half YET he doesn't try to contribute to housework the way he should and never really has w/o me telling him to. Well the other day, I cleaned up the entire house...he went to get groceries as I asked him to, but I noticed that he didn't get anything that I asked. That turned into another argument. He sat in our daughter's room while I cleaned the house for about 7 or 8 hours. As I was finishing up everything, he tries to vaccuum. I was so angry. I washed clothes, folded clothes, cleaned two bedrooms, living room, and two bathrooms WHILE you didn't try to lift a finger, but now when I'm nearly done you want to vaccuum? I was livid and I told him to GET OUT and I unplugged the vaccuum and told him that was an insult...he tells me I'm unappreciative. So anyway, if there are dishes in the sink...he doesn't bother with that. I left a pile of clothes to be folded in the living room where he's been sleeping...he hasn't bothered with that. He took my keys and got the mail yesterday(which he never does) but only because he was expecting something. Last night, he spent no time with our baby...as usual...I did mostly everything for her. I asked him to feed her and he said ok thru texts. Well two hours later, I look in her room and shes sleeping on her floor. I texted him asking him if he even fed her as I asked him to and he said "no because i asked him after he had left but he was on his way home. and i told him "dont bother. shes sleep. its cool" and he was like "please don't fight with me when i get home" AND i said i wouldnt. I told him that I can't live like this until January when the lease is up and that I need him to leave for both of our peace and sanity. The more he stays here and does nothing to help out the angrier I become. He plays poker all the time, so I know he could make the money. I am miserable...I stay in my room all day and he stays in the living room. My name is on all bills and he never signed the new lease so I'm wondering if he's technically even a tenant. He's always been lazy but this is too much...it's too much and he doesn't act like hes done anything or is doing anything to piss me off. He claims he feels weird around me and if he had somewhere to go he would...but he has an uncle...he has a couple of friends. I almost feel like he's not trying. And everytime I post something on twitter about how Im feeling...he has to make a post too. At this point, I am over all of it...what do I do?! How do I deal with this if he wont leave?!
Recommended Posts