that girl Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I was reading your two thread and thought it might make sense to put them together (since I was about to ask you how old your boyfriend is thinking he might be under 21 but it seems like he's probably more like 40). You've been together 9 months and everything is awesome except: -He hasn't said I love you yet, even after you say it. -Outside of penetrating you, he never makes any kind of contact with your vagina. Not even just no oral sex, in 9 months he has only touched you there once. Plus, he's somewhat recently divorced, you have a fulfilling kinky sex life, and he talks about his possessions as "ours" even though you don't live together. Have I got it right? Combining those two things, I think something must be going on, not that he just isn't into oral or is slow to say I love you. Does he seem really insecure? Could it be that he just isn't that into you? Was his marriage his one serious relationship?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 What? The guy has been "married" and still won't go (her) cookie?? This is not a guy who is "awesome". He is giving (her) plenty of understanding as to the kind of person he really is, and yet (she) isn't sharp enough to learn the lesson the easy way. (I read some of that other thread too, but couldn't exactly figure out which way to lean... but now it is clear)
yoga18 Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Well I agree that some of things are odd but at the same time, I really am talking about a great guy here. I don't really feel like getting into how he treats me or the way he makes me feel but they are all good things. We don't live together because it has only been 9 months. I would say that he is scared to make a full commitment he and his ex really messed it up. He moved her in and got engaged in 8 months. I know that part of the issues is that he does want to take his time with me which I'm fine with. That part is ok. Its just hard to feel extremely loved but not hear it. As for the whole down under thing....I have no clue, yes he was married but honestly when he has talked about it, it sounds as though he has only done it a handful of times. Correct me if I am wrong here but I didn't know that just cause one got married it means they eat the umm cookie as sincereonlineguy was saying. As for sharp enough, well I might not completely understand the male mind but I am certainly sharp enough to cut. I also didn't know it takes that in order to be awesome but hey I guess definitions are different for everyone
Author that girl Posted October 11, 2010 Author Posted October 11, 2010 Correct me if I am wrong here but I didn't know that just cause one got married it means they eat the umm cookie as sincereonlineguy was saying. No, I don't think it does. Not everyone likes giving oral sex. But there is not giving oral sex and not touching the other person's genitals at all. It sounds like this guy, nice as he might be, has some serious communication issues. He is both awkward discussing sex and afraid to say I love you. I'm not sure how you could work on that, but it seems like it would be a significant problem.
yoga18 Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Lol for me it isn't the end of the world. He's really a fun guy a little awkward maybe but I'm determined to um help him along we will see what happens soon enough
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 One can only wonder whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy women will even consider twice someone as selfish as Yoga18's guy clearly is. If he's that way on something as important as this, then just imagine how he's going to be when monopolizing the TV remote after you've (spent) 8 years of your life married to the guy. Married once... and he still didn't get it???? Better think long and hard before making any sort of long-term commitment to him.
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