Sweetstarkis Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 This is my first post, and for some reason i'm nervous. But I really need to vent. I'm sure my best friend is tired of hearing it. My husband/soon to be ex husband and i have been separated for over a month, and it's been difficult. The hardest part of it has been the family's reaction to it. Everyone on my side assumes that he abandoned the family, and he didn't i kicked him out. After i found out he was cheating on me for the 158,484,494 time. Or people feel the need to day ya'll didn't even make it a year"...Really, because i can do the math ( we barely made it 6 months). All of this is to say that...im trying, but its so hard, and i feel alone. We have a beautiful daughter together, and she is the only reason that we still keep in contact. If it was up to me i would cut off all contact with him, but clearly i can't do that. But every time i hear his voice i can't help but think about the other woman he is with, and how full of crap he is. Ok..now the rant.... He didn't even wait to replace me. Did he ever love me? Did he ever care. Clearly, he only married me because i was pregnant. Okay so im back... fast forward to tonight. It was time for he usual daily call to our daughter, and so i put him on speaker phone because she didn't feel like holding the phone. As he was talking i hear a woman's voice...and she asks him what his plans are for tonight and he basically says he has none. So she invited him over for a 'good time' since they had such a good time last night. And the only I could do was cry....and i'm not sure why. Perhaps this whole conversation would make more since if i put it in context. my soon to be ex and started dating in 03, broke up 2 yrs later, and rekindled our 'love' in Chicago where i went to college. During that time i got pregnant and he joined the army. I moved back home since he was at basic training. After he came back he joined me, but then got deployed to Iraq. We got married on his leave in january of 2010. He came home early in march of 2010. I completed my degree at a local university in May of this year, and he now attends my alma mater. After i kicked him out he moved on campus. This whole process would be easier if i had some 'me time', but i don't. I have our daughter basically 24/7 and im tired...i"m stressed, and i just want to cry all the time, but i dont have the time to cry. Am I crazy for letting something so random affect me so? How should i feel? Help!!!
trippi1432 Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Sweetstarksi - stop....you have a beautiful daughter and an education...you are ahead of the curve. Move on from this and love that baby girl. What your ex didn't see, someone will.
You Go Girl Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Well of course you feel a lot of pain. You put a lot of effort into that relationship, and he didn't return as much effort. Why doesn't he take care of your daughter at times? That is, if he's a decent father. You could use a little break now and then. Do you have a clear plan of what you would do with a little "me" time?
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