xxam Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I work at this place next to a coffee shop. There, I have known this girl for a few months who is super nice. We know each other's name and she gives me free coffees all the time. She is beautiful and has such an exceptional personality that I have never seen. One day, I gave her a bottle of perfume to thank her for the free coffees, with a card saying thank you and that she is the nicest girl I have known. She did not really respond to the gift other than thanking me when I went to the coffee shop a few days later. It has been a month since then and the only time I see her is once a week (I hesitate to go there too often because I don't want her to think I am freeloading the coffee.) By the way, she does give free drinks to my female co-workers. I am little nervous about asking her out. For one, there maybe a height issue. If she wears heels, she is taller than me. Two, there could be an age issue although in this age of cougers and LA scene, I don't really care. She is much younger. Three, my life is kind of complicated where as hers seem normal. Four, she has not given me any signs that she would be interested. She is little bit reserved. And five, girl with that much quality may have a boyfriend already. So my plan is to just ask her to give me a few minutes to talk and be honest about how I feel without being a creep or anything. Just tell her that I want to get to know her better. What do you think?
Yvette_Sveden Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I suppose you can do it. The worst that can happen is that she's going to say no. I don't think the height issue would be much of a problem. If she doesn't wear high heels, then you would be taller than her. Women (such as myself) like taller men, or someone who is of equal height. With the age, I don't know if she would go for someone who's "that" much older than her. Then again, maybe that kind of stuff won't matter to her, but something tells me that that would be an issue. Let's remember that with such an age gap, your looks and the amount of money you make can be a factor. I'm not saying it WILL be a factor, just that it can be a factor. Shallow? Perhaps, but there are women who are her age (assuming she's in her mid-20's) who will think about those things when facing a decision to date a much older guy. I think that when she gave you no more than a thank you after giving her the perfume, that that was way of letting you know as gentle as possible that she isn't interested. But why would she give people free coffee in the first place? When you said that she gave free coffee to you, I thought that that was nice of her. But then after reading that she gives free coffee to your female co-workers, then I became uncertain again. She was probably taken aback with the gift. I hope she's not using it before she goes out with her boyfriend (IF she has any). Again, you can take the time to talk with her privately. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. OK? Yvette from Sweden.
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