fooled once Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 So many threads complaining about marriage... Thought I would start one to celebrate marriage! I have been married twice - first marriage lasted 9 years and produced a fantastic son! Second marriage so far is at 12 years and going strong! I married way too young the first time (22). The second time, I knew I found the man for me! I was 34; he was 41 (and had been married before and it produced 2 kids). He is amazing, sexy and adorable. He loves me, inspite of all faults and my lousy mood at times. He helped me raise my son. He is smart, he is excellent with finances, he knows how to fix anything, he cleans house and he cooks! He believes our housework should be divided 50/50; or actually 75/25 with him doing the 75. I have had many health issues and he takes such good care of me. He is funny, he is witty and he makes me laugh ... and smile .. a lot Sex isn't as frequent as it was when we dated and were first married; but it is still amazing He owns my heart. He has my love. He gives me butterflies. He is romantic, he is strong and damn, he is my man and I am the luckiest woman in the world! Kids are grown and we are empty nesters and while it was really hard for me the first year, now.... I am LOVING not worrying about kids underfoot! So ... married members, tell me about your fantastic marriage! Let's talk about the POSITIVE aspects of your married relationship!
Author fooled once Posted October 10, 2010 Author Posted October 10, 2010 Well, I've been married less than a year, so according to some, I don't count. However, I love threads like this, so I'll chime in. I feel like I have been blessed beyond belief. My hubby is sexy, funny, smart, hard working, ambitious, and he inspires me to be a better person. Sure, we all have things in our lives that can make them less than perfect, but I can't imagine my life without my husband. There's not one thing I would change about him. Not one. I've made some bad judgements in my life, and done some things that I deeply regret. But somehow, by Grace of God, I have this most amazing person in my life, and I am ever so thankful for him. Remember, some people's opinion's don't matter, since they have no impact on your life Jealousy abounds in some people's lives. You DO deserve all the happiness that is in your life. You have had your fair share of heartbreak along the journey you have traveled ... who hasn't. But you have admitted it, you have owned what you did and you chose a different, better route. No shame in that. None of us are perfect, contrary to others thoughts Live life to the fullest each day.... we never know when it will be the last.
Stung Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 My husband is a truly good man. Sometimes he drives me crazy, sometimes I drive him crazy, but we are best friends and partners working towards a common goal. Our idiosyncrasies mesh beautifully, we're lucky to have found each other. He's smart, he's funny, he's a good lover, a good father, even a good cook--I'm really loving this whole marriage thing, on the whole. On the rare occasions we are apart for a couple of days, I have trouble sleeping without him--and if you had ever heard him snoring, that would be tough for you to believe .
Stung Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Aw, I know of several other regulars on these boards who could contribute to this thread, if they saw it was here/had the time.
JamesM Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Despite the problems we have had and despite what I would like to change.... I agree. I don't think I would make any different decisions along the way. Marriage can be fantastic and for me it has been many times. Not to be a downer, but it has also had its lows. Commitment is what gets me through the low times and back to the fantastic times. BTW, didn't Larry King say something like that? Isn't that why he married seven times?
quankanne Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 I won't say it's fantastic because right now he's cheesing me off, but it's definitely been an adventure, and I couldn't ask for anything more or be with someone as well-suited as he is for me ... you know, it really amazes me how two people with seemingly nothing in common can just hook up, try to forge a life together, go through all life's whammies and surprises, then BAM! Before you know it, nearly 20 years have passed. Some days, I feel every minute of those two decades; other days, I'm surprised that it's been that long because it sure doesn't seem like it.
quankanne Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 I love being married! yeah ... the ironic thing is that never, EVER did I plan to settle down when I was a kid thinking about how my life was going to play out ... or even a co-ed dating up a storm. I was going to find work with a newspaper, somehow have kids and that was it. Then he entered the stage ...
giotto Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 marriage is fantastic for about six months, then reality kicks in...
GorillaTheater Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 I don't think I would make any different decisions along the way. Marriage can be fantastic and for me it has been many times. Not to be a downer, but it has also had its lows. Commitment is what gets me through the low times and back to the fantastic times. Can't say it any better than this.
allina Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 My marriage and the relationship with my husband prior to us getting married has been, and continues to be absolutely fantastic My husband is brilliant, handsome, sexy and he treats me like gold. He's an amazing musician and an even better lover. I can always count on my time with him be to full of laughs and happiness. He gets along with everyone and is always ready for fun and adventure. I love that he always knows about some event, concert or show, and can always plan an amazing weekend or night out. We also can also enjoy a quiet night at home cooking dinner, playing guitar or just kicking back. As long as I'm with him it doesn't really matter. Our marriage is a lot of fun but we also know how to set and accomplish goals together. We know how to work together and are on the same page when it comes to the important stuff. When we first started dating I was just 23 and finishing up college, since then we've traveled, grown in our careers and bought our first house. I can honestly say that each and every single day I feel blessed to have this man by my side as my husband. He has always made me feel loved, respected and appreciated. I make sure that my actions always show him the same.
crazycatlady Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I can say currently we are operating on a wave-lenght that is both soothing, strenghtening, and enjoyable. In the past we have been very disjointed, and some where I wondered if we would or even should make it through - and no his affair was not one of those times, very rocky, but not marriage destroying. We aren't perfect, neither of us. In fact we can both be stubborn, sarcastic, a little mean and petty, at times selfish, politically we are fairly different, I'm more optimistic and he's more gloomy. Both we work. I crave balance, he helps me there. He craves someone who is as tough and strong willed as he not to mention as smart (well close lol) and I provide that. We fit. We work. Neither of us function as well apart as we do together. Some of that is habit and some of that is simply because we are use to the other counterbalancing our views on life. Is it fantastic? No not in the sense everyone seems to be using that word here. Is it us? Oh definately. I wouldn't change it for the world. It works. It makes us happy mentally, physically, and intellectually. Its what I see in my parents, and saw in both sets of my grandparents. Its not always an easy ride, but it sure is a hell of a ride. CCL
crazycatlady Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 We just recently celebrated 13 years, though its getting close to 15 years together. In some ways it feels like forever and in others I remember the day we met and the day we said our vows like it was just yesterday. But its the same with the kiddos. And how they make me feel. I don't know if 13 years is long. Sometimes I think it is, and sometimes it doesn't feel that way. I do know we have held out through some difficult times and feel that we can hold out through more if/when they come.
xxoo Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Neither of us function as well apart as we do together. This is perfect, CCL! The positive aspects of my marriage: Have a partner in parenting (huge positive...listed first for a reason...my god, I don't ever want to do this job alone!) Have a deeply intimate, trusted sex partner Get to live with my best friend Get to share the work, the bills, the stress...but also the joy, the celebration, and the dreams. I'm not sure if it is just my personality, or if it is our marriage, but marriage has also been very good for my mental health in general.
Author fooled once Posted October 16, 2010 Author Posted October 16, 2010 WOW! 3 replies... IMHO - that is because people come to internet communities to find answers to problems, not to talk about how GOOD life is. Despite the problems we have had and despite what I would like to change.... I agree. I don't think I would make any different decisions along the way. Marriage can be fantastic and for me it has been many times. Not to be a downer, but it has also had its lows. Commitment is what gets me through the low times and back to the fantastic times. BTW, didn't Larry King say something like that? Isn't that why he married seven times? It does have ups and downs, and I agree, commitment is what gets people through those times AND the willingness and desire to work it out. I won't say it's fantastic because right now he's cheesing me off, but it's definitely been an adventure, and I couldn't ask for anything more or be with someone as well-suited as he is for me ... you know, it really amazes me how two people with seemingly nothing in common can just hook up, try to forge a life together, go through all life's whammies and surprises, then BAM! Before you know it, nearly 20 years have passed. Some days, I feel every minute of those two decades; other days, I'm surprised that it's been that long because it sure doesn't seem like it. awww marriage is fantastic for about six months, then reality kicks in... how sad that that is your view. I can't say it is MY reality though (and I am happy I can't say that is my reality). to ME, we are meant to share life with someone.
threebyfate Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Marriage is amazing! We're coming up to our first year anniversary, second marriages for both of us. We've been blessed with a happy little one who makes everyone around him laugh and smile! Life honestly couldn't be more rich and fulfilling!
Pyro Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Lets hope so. I will be sometime early in the next year. I have all the faith in the world in our soon to be marriage. She trusts me and I trust her right back.
BellaBellaBella Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 My husband is an amazing man. He loves me and is devoted to me. He is not perfect and neither am I. We do work as a couple. We have a long marriage. Knowing each and everything about him. I would chose him again. He would chose me as well. I think marriage is fantastic part of the time, not so much others. There are ways we click perfectly and ways we don't. He is a compliment to me in some ways. In some ways he is a doesn't. We have been togather for 15 years and will be married 15 years in the spring. I love my husband because he allows me to be free.
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