KitKate Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 I've been seeing someone about once or twice a week for a few weeks now and things seem to be going well, but he still logs on to his online dating site about once a day. We met on that site and I have since deleted my profile (but not because of him). I know that things are still early right now. We haven't had the "talk" and we haven't gotten past minor heavy petting and kissing, so things are moving slowly physically. How far into dating someone do/did you stop signing into the site and/or delete the site? Why?
USMCHokie Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I pretty much stopped signing on when I met a girl that I wanted to pursue a relationship with...and I completely deactivate the account after we have the exclusivity talk...
brainygirl Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I deactived mine once I realized that I had met someone I wanted to be with. But without communicating with him about it, its a it much to expect him to know this bothers you. Also, if its OKCUPID, some people use it for the quizes and forums so logging in and out might not be inticative of much. and question? How do you think the conversation will go that starts "I deleted my account, but I've been logging in and checking yours and it looks like you are still active"?
jerbear Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Once it becomes exclusive then the profile gets hidden but not deleted. I delete it once I'm "married" and have been like that.
Cee Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I was dating someone for a few weeks and wanted to disable my OKC profile b/c I like to focus on one person at a time. I mentioned it to the guy I was dating and told him I was fine with him keeping his profile up. I could tell we weren't at the relationship stage. He ended up dumping me later that night (after we got physical) saying he was in love with someone else. He remained on OKC and logged in every day. I'm glad we had the talk. I found out that he was a total a$$hat. And I'm glad to be rid of him.
D-Jam Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 I think if I met some girl and started seeing her, I wouldn't take down a profile if I had one. If we're seeing a lot of one another and I think it might get somewhere, then I'll hide the profile...meaning take it down without deleting it...but make it inactive. If we get into a full-on RL, then I delete the profile and such off the site.
carhill Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 One: Don't track his site 'behavior'. Two: If *you* want to be exclusive, ask for it and, concurrently, share *your* perspective about exclusivity and dating sites. He can make a choice in line with his perspective. When I'm seriously dating a lady, I don't look for other ladies to date. I can see no reason to have a dating 'profile' once the relationship has become intimate sexually. I met my exW on a dating site back when such sites were 'new' on the internet. For myself, nothing has changed. YMMV.
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