life4meagain Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 Knowing in my heart what the answer truly is....I'm still turning to ask this question for the sake of confirmation. My husband and I are currently separated and are in the process of filing for divorce. Although we had our difficulties during the 4 year marriage, it ended because he took a weekend trip to visit a friend and ending up sleeping with another woman. He came home that Sunday night asking for a divorce. He has continued to see and talk to this woman though she is 2 hours away. However, the past 2 weeks, he and I have been seeing one another again, and it seemed that some things had changed with how he was treating me and our relationship....until I asked him about what he wanted and what we were doing...to which his reply was that he wanted to see me but he also wanted to see her. He said that he wanted something of comparison to determine how he truly feels about me. So here's my question....should I completely shut him out of my life now. Am I foolish for continuing to see and sleep with him when, and I've only shared a small portion of the circumstances...he has told me that he wants us both...but there still could be hope for us in the future? Again, a small portion....just looking to see if I should distance myself completely and realize that he truly is a jerk.
painfullyobvious Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 Why would you allow yourself to share your husband? Move on if your husband is unwilling to be committed to you. I would break things off and not contact him for your own sanity as well. You will never completely heal if you contantly go back and forth like this. He has disresepcted you in a very personal manner once. Do not allow him to do it again
TLCbear Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 Not sure if you have children together or not, but if you do, then it's going to hard to shut him completely out, however, if you don't I say yes. And you already know it would be foolish to continue sleeping with him. Denial is such a crazy thing and it's sooo hard to face reality, but it needs to be face. See him for who he truly is. I just ended a 2 and a half year relationship, so yes, denial is kicking my butt right now. Hope this helps.
Kinder-Horror Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 why would you allow him to compare you to someone else and then decide what he wants? You deserve someone who doesn't have to decide if they want to be with you
guinnessdraft Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Obviously, she enjoys having sex with him. You should continue to sleep with him but sleep with other guys too. You shouldn't remarry him or think there's any legit marriage solution in the future. When you find a better guy, you will naturally shut him out.
ComeUndone Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 You should distance yourself completely. He chose to sleep with someone outside his marriage... isn't that enough? He just wants both of you to have sex with... what an a$$. Jump ship.
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