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I'm so lonely and the few friends that I had are dropping off like flies because they are sick of hearing about my breakup and how bummed out I am.

 

I almost predict in a few weeks I will be a complete loner again aside from going out to salsa clubs and working out alone at the gym.

 

I'm preparing myself for a sad Thanksgiving and Christmas this year.

 

I just miss her so much and there is NOTHING I can do to get her back... she has moved on and we have cut all ties.

 

Jeff

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I'm so lonely and the few friends that I had are dropping off like flies because they are sick of hearing about my breakup and how bummed out I am.

 

I almost predict in a few weeks I will be a complete loner again aside from going out to salsa clubs and working out alone at the gym.

 

I'm preparing myself for a sad Thanksgiving and Christmas this year.

 

I just miss her so much and there is NOTHING I can do to get her back... she has moved on and we have cut all ties.

 

Jeff

 

Aw, Jeff I know.:( Weekends are so hard. Everytime Saturday rolls around I get into a funk. It's because I spent my weekends with my ex. I'm not looking forward to the holidays either. How depressing. I always spent them with my ex and his family. I have my own family to celebrate them with, but it won't be the same. Spending time with his family every year was always so special.

 

I know just how you feel about your friends being sick of hearing the same old story. Mine are probably sick of it too. They are nice about it, though. Thank God we have LS, right? Keep posting!:)

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Yes, I totally agree, weekends should be banned! Its very dificult to get back out there when you're hurting so much, but I'll take a guess that you probably haven't got kids to look after?

If not, then get yourself out ...to a club, pub, bowling, whatever- even if it is difficult it beats sitting in by yourself!

Even if you only manage to stay for one drink, at least you are part of the human race again and, it does get easier as time goes on.

I'm not trying to be-little how crap you feel at the moment and I'm not going to pretend its easy, but go! Get out and socialise and then come back to LS later and know that we are here for you. Hugs.:bunny::bunny::bunny:

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absolutely you will be lonely for the holidays with that attitude/way of looking at it.

 

seriously it's all perception/beliefs.

 

at the time i would say my Christmas and thanksgiving was lonely, but in hindsight they were quite enjoyable.

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CDN TG this weekend and it sucks, I am home alone right now and due to it being a TG weekend friends are doing their holiday stuff etc.

 

Xmas and VDAY will be a dreaded killer.

 

Yet I still hold onto hope that one day I'll be happy again even though 2.5 months post break up I still hope for it to be with the ex.

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I used to work weekends as well as my ex. Now I changed my schedule and I have weekends off. It feels a little better knowing that she's working while I'm enjoying my days off. Then again, she works till 11pm and she goes out almost every day while I'm working. She's traveling and enjoying her life. She has lots of friends while I'm alone 90% of the time.

I have some plans this weekend and the weather is nice so I hope I'll enjoy it. Then on monday I have to work while she's going to DC to be with her new bf. Then a week later she's planed a road trip somewhere. Why the hell she's even telling me all this? It's just not fair that dumpers always get all the best and they don't deserve it.

I guess next time I'll play a different game. I'll keep my social life alive and be ready at any point to bounce back if I get dumped. Or better yet, if I see any red flags I'll LAUNCH!

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Yeah I just started a new job two weeks ago. It's going well aactually....

 

The job keeps my mind off the breakup most of the time.

 

Weekends are a hard because I have large blocks of time just sitting here.

 

Jeff

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Congrats on your new job. As I just started my new job 2 weeks ago as well. It's crazy how I had the most depressing summer for 2.5 months since the breakup, but God blessed me with a new job just this past month. Certainly, it takes my mind off of him.

 

As today, I went to work.. worked my butt off only to come home on this lovely Saturday evening with no one or nothing to do. At 5pm, I already had order me take out and got into my pajamas :(

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I agree with all of you. Weekends are the worst. I keep busy, try to move on etc. But even after all this time I just can't make myself forget. I hate being alone. I was skydiving all day today, I'm going again tomorrow, but she is still on my mind. Sometimes the pain of it can almost crush the life right out of

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I am in Denver also and would love to sky dive! I really don't give a damn if I die right now anyway so what better time would it be to start skydiving?

 

Skydivingaddct... can you send me a PM with the details on how to get more involved with sky diving?

 

thanks,

 

Jeff

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Sure Jeff. Funny, but I don't give a damn if I die either.

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Jeff, sorry I can't pm you. I think you have to have more posts to receive pm's. But follow this link

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well ****, how many posts do i have to have to be able to PM someone?

 

Sigh. Thanks for the link. I'm going to sign up ASAP. I really think I need to throw myself out of a plane a few times... perhaps I'll get a different perspective on life.

 

Jeff

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I really think I need to throw myself out of a plane a few times... perhaps I'll get a different perspective on life.

 

Jeff

 

 

You will, that's a fact.

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So I researched that website you gave me and there seem to be several locations that I can join to get into sky diving. I wish this friggan website would let me PM you... I've asked the mods if I could donate some $$$ so that the PM functionality could be turned on.

 

I could use a friend that knows the sky diving aspect as a way to guide me through this new and exciting hobby if you don't mind. Please we are local to Denver so......

 

I've got 50 posts and I think I've been on here about 1 month now. When does the PM functionality get enabled? Do I need to send 1500 posts or something to get PM functionality?

 

Can you sky dive in the winter?

 

Jeff

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Sky diving sounds like a dangerous game in your current state. You don't want depression to hit you while you're up there because you may just decide to crash land.

I caught myself thinking few times while I was driving how nice would it be to just floor it and close my eyes... no more pain, ever... I never seriously considered it though, but you never know where is your breaking point. I had a friend who went through a very rough break up and she swallowed some pills in a moment of desperation. Once her body started getting numb she got scared, realized what she's done and somehow drove to a friends house and just collapsed right at her door. They saved her life but they kept her in mental institute for a while. She said it just happened in a moment of desperation, she wasn't planning to commit suicide.

that scares s**t out of me because I'm very emotionally unstable that I might even look for a professional help.

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thatsonlyme,

 

First off, I don't think sky diving is anymore dangerous than any other activity I am doing in life. If I really wanted to killl myself, I'd of done it by now and i wouldn't have to pay several hundred dollars to jump out of an airplane and not pull the rip cord ( I think the newer suits will auto pull the rip cord for you at a certain altitude anyway ).

 

There are a million ways to kill yourself, and just because I say I don't want to live right now doesn't actually mean I will act on thoguhts and do that. I drive a long C470 everyday and could easily turn into oncoming traffic or I could just down 50 pills right now because I have access to that. Hell, I even own firearms and could just put a round in my head if I was serious enough about it.

 

I'm in a lot of pain and sometimes I get thoughts of ending it all but in reality I know that there is going to be a point where life is going to get better and I just keep going. And I'm not about taking the pussy way out of life either...

 

I think sky diving would actually help me as it's a fear I've had for awhile. Jumping out of an airplane with just a parachute on would be conquering a huge fear that I've always had and will make me stronger.

 

I'm going to do it! :) And I hope I can get a hold of skydiveaddict so perhaps we could meet up and he could show me the ropes.

 

Thatsonlyme, I want to appreciate your concern though... it is thoughtful of you to express concern to someone you don't even really know on the internet. I assure you I'm okay in the sense that I still do not enjoy living right now, but it's not at a point where I'm going to end it.

 

I am going to a therapist once a week and it's helping me, but I'm still dealing with the grief of losing someone.

 

Jeff

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