CM2009 Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 (edited) I don't know this is the right forum but here goes nothing: I've been having this issue for months and I don't know what it is but I keep having dreams about my stbxw its either we're just together hanging out or something sexually. Here's just a mini recap of our marriage. We had been married for 8 yrs she had 2 kids from a different relationship, we've had our ups and downs like every marriage, i lost my job and a yr later she had a stroke and had to be hospitalized. I finally found a stable job in 08, in 09 she was secretly talking to a co-worker (male) behind me who I looked at as a friend, by the way he was married with multiple kids with his wife. So after a while she was acting funnny and suspicious so I found emails and text at all times in the night while I was sleep in the other room. So after we had a wknd get away to Florida she tells me that she doesn't love me anymore and we separate. Fast fwd to today they are together in a relationship and our divorce will be final in Dec. Now I've moved on with my life finally enjoying myself, takin trips meeting wonderful people and plus im in the process of buying my own place. Now my issue is this why am I still dreaming about her when I don't really think of her like that anymore. And last night was the final straw cause I had back to back dreams about her, the first one was at church and she came and sat by me, put one arm around my shoulder and kissed me on the cheek and the second I was at my place and she wanted to make love to me. I mean I care about her and have lov for her but not like that anymore so can someone shed some light on this one for me, thanks... I Edited October 9, 2010 by CM2009
Trovador Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I wouldn't worry, I still dream of my puppy love! I also have recurrent dreams of a coworker, and it's always the same, we kissing hotly, but I have never felt anything for her (although she is a hottie)... see? It's what we choose to make of those dreams what matters all, not the dreams by themselves... On the other hand, I have always wonderes why I don't dream at all of my recent ex (about 5 times during almost a year)... You are doing fine in "real life", and that is what counts most... and of course we will always be haunted by memories and dreams...
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