laurant Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 [FONT=Calibri]I have writen a second chance letter i intend to drop through my ex letter box monday! [/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]I have had a chance to take a good hard look at myself over the last few weeks and realised why you had no choice but to end our marriage. I would have done the same thing in your shoes. [/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]In the past when you have highlighted my paranoia and insecurities, I have convinced myself they didn’t exist but I was wrong and I apologise for that. I made the mistake of always assuming that we would remain together and I never really thought that I would ever need to change. I have realised now that my actions have resulted in me pushing away my best friend and wife.[/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]The numerous sessions with the councillor have uncovered a number of issues, relating to my childhood and previous relationships, which have resulted in my insecurities and actions in our marriage. These sessions are now getting more in depth and closer to the root of my problems, in order to help me resolve them.[/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]I have also uncovered during the counselling session, the following reasons why I was acting weird in the months leading up to our break up. Increased stress, due to my additional workload and responsibilities at work, the reopening and the CMI inspection, and the disruptive attitude of certain members of staff, all led to me drinking every night and resulted in a depression and breakdown.[/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]I realise this could have been avoided if I had just opened up and talked to you, instead of bottling it up. I have always found it difficult to talk as you well know but have now realise how important it is to discuss any problems and concerns I have instead of burying my head in the sand.[/FONT] Maybe one day, when I am ready, I can tell you everything the counselling sessions have made me realise about myself. Any coments welcome..!
Billie The Puppet Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 I like how it doesn't ask for a second chance directly but it will most likely push her further away or she'll ignore it. Basically it looks like an apology letter more than it does a second chance letter. Either way you are the divorcee so you shouldn't be reaching out expecting reconciliation.
rk369 Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I'm going to be blatantly honest with you. Please realize I am trying to help you, and not hurt you or your chances with her. Your letter is going to justify why she is not with you. This will be a turn-off. She will see it as an attempt to get her back, but she will read through the lines and see that you are making excuses for your previous behavior. If you want her back, it's good for her to know that you are getting in a healthier spot. But this letter is not the way to go about it. Good on you for the counseling. Take care of yourself, it does make you more attractive. Maybe the word can get back to her another way (a mutual friend?) that you are doing well and healing yourself. Let her be the one who hears it from someone else, and let her be the one who contacts you when the time is right. Hang in there.
Don Ho Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Do not send the letter! It will do more harm than good!
hellhathnofury Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 [FONT=Calibri]I have writen a second chance letter i intend to drop through my ex letter box monday! [/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]I have had a chance to take a good hard look at myself over the last few weeks and realised why you had no choice but to end our marriage. I would have done the same thing in your shoes. [/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]In the past when you have highlighted my paranoia and insecurities, I have convinced myself they didn’t exist but I was wrong and I apologise for that. I made the mistake of always assuming that we would remain together and I never really thought that I would ever need to change. I have realised now that my actions have resulted in me pushing away my best friend and wife.[/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]The numerous sessions with the councillor have uncovered a number of issues, relating to my childhood and previous relationships, which have resulted in my insecurities and actions in our marriage. These sessions are now getting more in depth and closer to the root of my problems, in order to help me resolve them.[/FONT] [FONT=Calibri]I have also uncovered during the counselling session, the following reasons why I was acting weird in the months leading up to our break up. Increased stress, due to my additional workload and responsibilities at work, the reopening and the CMI inspection, and the disruptive attitude of certain members of staff, all led to me drinking every night and resulted in a depression and breakdown.[FONT=Calibri] [FONT=Calibri]I realise this could have been avoided if I had just opened up and talked to you, instead of bottling it up. I have always found it difficult to talk as you well know but have now realise how important it is to discuss any problems and concerns I have instead of burying my head in the sand.[/FONT] Maybe one day, when I am ready, I can tell you everything the counselling sessions have made me realise about myself. Any coments welcome..! Edit it carefully to take out all the [FONT= Calibri][/ FONT] crud, proof-read it, make sure the punctuation is correct, capitals for beginning of sentences and proper nouns, then sign it, fold it carefully, put it in the envelope, and burn it. Best thing you could do.
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