Teknoe Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 Tonight some female pals of mine cooked me dinner for the help I've given them the past couple weeks. It was delicious, but somehow, it just didn't sit well with my stomach. I had to go #2 pretty badly. Then we watched a movie, and throughout the movie I needed to kinda go again, but it wasn't bad enough that I couldn't hold it, so I just held it. When the movie was over I drove home fast to take a dump in the comfort of my own place, but in the process, was pulled over for going 10 MPH over the speed limit. I actually told the officer the truth that I was rushing home to go #2 big time, and that I apologize for going over the speed limit. He let me off. My question is, this is a story I'd like to relay to my female friends... but is it wise considering their food didn't sit well with my stomach, even though I thought it was delicious and fine? If you were my girl friend who did the cooking, would this story offend you from a cooking standpoint? Just trying to see it from a girl's POV before I share with them this story. Thanks. By the way, I know it varies girl to girl. I'd say these girls are "chill" and more on the "liberal" side... but still, dunno if it's a soft/sore spot for girls when your stomach has a bad reaction to something they cooked and put their heart and effort into. So ladies, what do you think?
Kamille Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 Was it spicy food? I ask because then you can tell the story as your own "natural" reaction to spicy food therefore not putting the blame on the cooking. To answer the question about how I would react if bf told me that kind of story: After being with bf for over a year, I would find it hilarious. The story wouldn't offend me, even if it was the result of my cooking. We've built enough trust not to expect to try and appear perfect to the other all the time. At months 1-6, however, I might have been a bit more sensitive-concerned, as I was still trying to impress him.
Author Teknoe Posted October 9, 2010 Author Posted October 9, 2010 Was it spicy food? I ask because then you can tell the story as your own "natural" reaction to spicy food therefore not putting the blame on the cooking. To answer the question about how I would react if bf told me that kind of story: After being with bf for over a year, I would find it hilarious. The story wouldn't offend me, even if it was the result of my cooking. We've built enough trust not to expect to try and appear perfect to the other all the time. At months 1-6, however, I might have been a bit more sensitive-concerned, as I was still trying to impress him. Hmmm, no it wasn't spicy but I *DID* have REALLY spicy food the night before! Perhaps it finally built up? Oh, and to clarify, these are my PLATONIC female friends. So try to view it from a standpoint of your reaction if your REGULAR PLATONIC guy friend relayed this story to ya. Not a BF-GF situation. And if it helps, we met not too long ago, so I can't say we're good friends yet. They are the sisters of a pretty good friend and I'm slowly getting to know them better and vice versa since I hang out with their sister from time to time.
Kamille Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 From what you describe of your recent friendship, than I might think it was strange. The very fact that you wonder if you should tell the story indicates that you don't feel you've reached that level of friendship intimacy with them.
Author Teknoe Posted October 9, 2010 Author Posted October 9, 2010 From what you describe of your recent friendship, than I might think it was strange. The very fact that you wonder if you should tell the story indicates that you don't feel you've reached that level of friendship intimacy with them. Well I can be a pretty straight forward guy, even with newer friends. Just want to check first with random female strangers on the internet for your point of view before I send the email. I just think the story is worthy to be shared with them, since it is quite a story... it's not often an officer lets you go scotch-free and what I said to him was pretty hilarious in hindsight. Also, this is one way how friendships go from new and casual to more real. I think I will share with them tomorrow. Hopefully they won't be offended or conscious, but can just laugh at the story.
Yvette_Sveden Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 Don't do it, sweetie. Perhaps it's a story you can share with them if you got serious with one of them in the near future. Yvette from Sweden
Star Gazer Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I wouldn't take it personally how anyone's body reacted to my food. But I have a sensitive tummy myself, so I'm understanding to those issues. I'd also like to know that that's why someone left so suddenly. Plus, in all honesty, that sort of conversation is always a bonding experience for me.
florence of suburbia Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 I don't even like to contemplate my own bowel movements let alone another person's, so I vote no.
Yvette_Sveden Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I don't even like to contemplate my own bowel movements let alone another person's, so I vote no. Good one! When I first read what the discussion was all about, I was like "YUK!" But I'm curious as to how that conversation went with the women who cooked him the meal?
LisaLee Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 If you want to say something I would just say that the food didn't sit well for you and you were "in the bathroom" for a while. No need for details, let them figure it out. They might just assume you were pukey. I am totally going to use that excuse the next time I get pulled over, though.
Author Teknoe Posted October 11, 2010 Author Posted October 11, 2010 Good one! When I first read what the discussion was all about, I was like "YUK!" But I'm curious as to how that conversation went with the women who cooked him the meal? Ha, well I decided to email the 3 girls Sunday morning. So far received one reply and it was a simple "Awww, glad everything worked out OK! Hope you got home in time :)" and she also thanked me for helping her move in stuff and that it was fun Friday night when my friend and I were over for dinner.
hellhathnofury Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I'm sorry, I've seen some inane questions, but really. Unless you met all these platonic friends yesterday, I really don't think it matters one iota. From what I know (and I spent six months in the USA.....) I think Americans have a bit of a hang-up about bodily functions... I'm not criticising, but it's just something I found... Or rather, not something I have noticed anywhere else I have been, and I travel extensively.
angielove Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 (edited) Haha! Dude I thought that story was pretty funny. And awesome way to get out of a speeding ticket! If a guy told me that (and he was someone I liked/thought was attractive/was friends with) I wouldn't be grossed out. But that's just me Oh and I would still find it funny (and not be offended at all) if I were the person who cooked the food! Edited October 13, 2010 by angielove
Author Teknoe Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 Haha! Dude I thought that story was pretty funny. And awesome way to get out of a speeding ticket! If a guy told me that (and he was someone I liked/thought was attractive/was friends with) I wouldn't be grossed out. But that's just me Oh and I would still find it funny (and not be offended at all) if I were the person who cooked the food! LOL, thanks for your 2 cents Angie. Yeah, the girls seemed to take it with a good sense of humor. Although I don't know them TERRIBLY well, I think I know them enough to say they have a good sense of humor, which is required to "understand" a story like this and not be totally grossed out, lol
D-Lish Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I'd find the story incredibly amusing. I once made dinner for a guy with a little too much garlic in it and he left shortly after dinner. He told me the next time that my meal gave him the farts and that's why he left. I would find the story funny, but I am the type of person where you can pretty much say anything to me and it wouldn't phase me.
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