Tim The Enchanter Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Why can people not understand, that this is someone I have NEVER met, and he called me THREE days in a row (5 times in total, 2 texts) - why the need to talk every day??? What is the rush??? We didn't even have that many emails - he said he preferred the phone (though I was more comfortable with email - at least for a bit longer). And regarding the texts - they were just meaningless "how are you/enjoyed talking to you" - I mean I don't know the guy and don't want to get texts about nothing. It would be fine if I had actually met the guy and had some kind of spark there. Is it really that hard to find things to talk about? You know what, it shouldn't matter whether you've met him or not. I talked to my first ever 'internet girlfriend' on the phone every day for a week before actually meeting her, as she lived in another city. We had hit it off via email and then hit it off even more over the phone, so we just kept in regular contact. And she would call me. I just think you sound unusually uptight. He's probably better off without you.
krz12 Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 I have a question about protocol here. Met this girl online, we seem to share interests. I sent her a brief message. She responded. Problem is that, well, she had no profile pic. My own pictures are public, so she has seen them. Now, candidly, I'm not going to waste my time until I know what she looks like. So, other than sending her a message "Hi, can you please add a picture of yourself to your profile", is there a less, well, blunt way of saying that?
BobSacamento Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 Has he asked you out yet? When I'm dating someone I usually only call to set up a date. If he's calling to just shoot the **** that can be pretty annoying.
LittleTiger Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 I have a question about protocol here. Met this girl online, we seem to share interests. I sent her a brief message. She responded. Problem is that, well, she had no profile pic. My own pictures are public, so she has seen them. Now, candidly, I'm not going to waste my time until I know what she looks like. So, other than sending her a message "Hi, can you please add a picture of yourself to your profile", is there a less, well, blunt way of saying that? Candidly, I think it's very shallow to call it 'wasting your time' talking to someone just because you don't know what they look like. I'm starting to think I may be unique in this respect but if you're looking for a partner, not just sex, then personality has to come first. If you like the rest of her profile, you're hardly wasting time sending a couple of emails back and forth to find out a bit more. If you still like her after a few emails or online chats, then you can ask outright for a photo. I met my SO online and I didn't have photo of my face on my profile (it was deliberate - and not because I'm ugly! ). I had loads of guys being 'blunt' as you say, and I dismissed them all immediately. If you're serioulsy worried about time-wasting send a friendly message - I really like your profile, any reason why you're 'hiding'/haven't posted a pic? That way it's not a direct 'show me your face or I won't talk to you', which is how many guys come across. To the OP (if you're still reading) - it doesn't sound as though you're that interested in this guy if two phone calls in two days bothers you. If you'd really enjoyed the first call you'd be just as eager as he is for the second. If you wanted to carry on with emails for a while longer, why didn't you just say so? Giving guys your phone number before you're ready is a big mistake - there are a lot of wierdos out there! To start any relationship from a distance you HAVE to do the msn, phone, text, skype thing. No way round it. My SO and I have been in daily contact since the very first email he sent me.
LoveLace Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 (edited) I"m not sure how much exercise really prevents it, given that I've known some very active people with health records clean as a whistle, to turn up with stage 4 and die months later. Exercise boosts the immune system for sure, but from what I've seen cancer does not in any way discriminate against the most healthy nor the least healthy. I've seen an equal amount of tragic circumstances between the two. However, a person who is already very healthy might be more likely to tolerate the therapy if they need it. For example, I had a friend who never did an unhealthy thing in her life (no smoking or drinking, ate healthy and exercised) but ended up with a huge brain tumor that was not operable. She was only 50 and died a horrible death. So the cause had to be something environmental vs. behavioral. Edited October 21, 2010 by LoveLace
Author green_tea Posted October 23, 2010 Author Posted October 23, 2010 To the OP (if you're still reading) - it doesn't sound as though you're that interested in this guy if two phone calls in two days bothers you. If you'd really enjoyed the first call you'd be just as eager as he is for the second. If you wanted to carry on with emails for a while longer, why didn't you just say so? Giving guys your phone number before you're ready is a big mistake - there are a lot of wierdos out there! To start any relationship from a distance you HAVE to do the msn, phone, text, skype thing. No way round it. My SO and I have been in daily contact since the very first email he sent me. Yeah I'm still reading - just got quiet due to feeling hurt from some of the negative comments. Thanks for the response - I did want to email longer but felt pressured into talking on the phone because he said he didn't like emailing. And I was too shy to call him first, hence I just gave him my number and told him to call me. We are still in contact - but I just can't do the talking every day thing.
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