drmrid13 Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I am rather confused. My ex and I broke up a month ago. Since then he has contacted me every week only about once a week. He told me a few weeks ago that he honestly thought we would talk more. I have been really good at the NC thing, exept that I went out of my way to say hello once (he responded a day later-always flirty responses) and also I texted to ask when I could get my bike back (he responded two hours later but when I suggested a day there was no response until three days latter and he was apologizing, saying he felt like an a hole and a pice of S**T for not getting back to me right away.) He told me to not be afraid to call him. Does this mean he wants me to put in the effort? I'm afraid I will lose him for good since he is seemingly putting this in my hands.
Trovador Posted October 9, 2010 Posted October 9, 2010 Look, I see NC as the way to heal and forget the injuries caused by a break up, a chosen lifestyle if you will... it should be implemented when you really want to move on and have decided honestly that you don't want another chance with your ex... as I see in your thread you are not sure about what you really want (don't despair, we all have been there, not sure about going back or moving on or NC or LC or whatever), so I think you should go easy, you don't mention if it was a mutual break up or what, but if he was the main instigator, he just opened a door for you. It is up to you, but if I wanted my ex back I would go slow, after some days of chilling out I'd call and see how things go from there... if your ex wants only a friendship and he's clear about that, then it is time to go full NC because, frankly, you don't have much else to do... but remember, even if you two get back together, you can't expect different results if you keep doing the same things which drove you to split up before...
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