SithLord Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 What are different ways of handling that? My X of 3 years wants to be friends after I transfer the energy back on to her, she currently is dating an ex boyfriend she likes. She ask me let's be friends and I said we'll talk when we talk. I'm going into NC, what u guys think? Right now she doesn't want to return bc obviously she having fun at the moment
thatsonlyme Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 My ex is the same. I don't know what to think or say about it, I think she wants me around when she needs me. I mean if we were real friends we could hang out together I could stay over (on a couch) sometimes like the friends do. She might be insecure in her feelings and not willing to completely lose you. I think that's what's going on with my ex. Today I called her because I needed to talk to her about something and I asked her to meet up tomorrow. she was fine with that but asked me what I want to talk about. I said I'll tell her tomorrow because I don't wanna talk about it over the phone. I added that it's not about us getting back together or our past so no worries. She changed her attitude instantly and said if I don't tell her what is it about she won't have time for me tomorrow. She was like if you wanna act like that I'll be acting like a bitch too! wtf? I just said OK if that's what you want and I was ready to hang up, then she said I'm kidding, let's meet tomorrow! I think as long as they want to be friends they still have some feelings no matter how hard they try to hide it. I'm not saying it's love but any feelings are better that total indifference. I honestly don't think those feelings could turn into anything more unless she gets really hurt by the other guy and comes back to you. I'm not sure I'd want that anyway.
Author SithLord Posted October 8, 2010 Author Posted October 8, 2010 Bro vanish on her, without tellin her....let her miss u..
grungesponge Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Do you genuinely want to be friends with her? or is it something else? If you do and the breakup was mutual or at least amicable (i.e. she didn't screw you over or vice versa) then I don't see the harm in it. Personally, I'm not wired that way and I don't think you can really have a true friendship with an ex after crossing that line in the past. It just becomes a hindrance to your future relationships.
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