Epca18 Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Dear Shackers, I have been having some issues communicating with my girlfriend and it's really taking a toll on me. I am not sure how to approach the situation without it turning into an argument. I am 27 and she is 26. We have been dating for about 3 years and recently just moved in together. Our relationship is stable and we both treat each other with respect. The only recurring issue we have is is poor communication. When there are certain issues that are bothering us, we do not talk about them until they become a serious problem and we become angry. Our solution is that if something is bothering us, we bring it up before it becomes an issue. But my girlfriend remains quiet. She let's things build up and then I am blindsided. Small issues turn into unnecessarily large ones. The other night we had a tiff about finances and I took what she said the wrong way. The following day she apologized in an e-mail and she thought I took things the wrong way. I agreed that her language was confusing and it was done with, which it was. I did not take it to heart. So then the same night we come home from work and she is acting like something is wrong. I continue to ask her what it is and if it was about the situation. She made up an excuse. Then the rest of night she basically ignores me until the point where I become upset. I told her that I am tired of her doing this and that this is making my unhappy with our relationship. She thought I was being hurtful and she doesn't understand where I am coming from. We end up arguing about arguing and how we treat each other when we are angry when in all honesty the issue is communication. I am not sure what to do but I am losing patience. This is a recurring issue and I am not sure my emotions/mind can handle it anymore unless something happens. My girlfriend is very closed off with her emotions, but after 3 years things still have not changed after we have discussed that she needs to be more open. Any advice?
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