shia Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 hi me and my ex broke up a few mths ago coz i was acting insecure and needy:(.since then he has been in touch with me every 2 weeks or so.i was avoiding him initialy(i followed a no contct period of 2 mths). He once dropped by at my area to meet me,n after dat he started becoming distant from me and wasnt contacting me for days together, wen i asked him y he said he is worried abt his career.he wud initiate contact only once a mth or so thru text , but one good thing was dat he suggested a meeting after a couple of mths and we met.the meeting went great and he was dyin to touch me but didnt coz i had already told him dat i wudnt want dat to happen before we are back together. but i had again grew a bit clingy and anxious to get back together and i suggested to him about getting back together and he refused, but my clingy and insecure behaviour had reached its peak.den he said he had to concentrate on his career and hence he mite be movin to another country for his further studies coz dats more imp to him right now. a mth later he contacted me again and said he has decided to give his career decision a shot. to that i said i have always supported him with whatever he thinks is good for him and wished him all the best. he replied, thanks,i knew u will wish me from ur heart. a mth later, he contacted me on chat to which i didnt respond,and he called me "heartless". a few days later i had to contact him coz i was in some trouble and he wasnt available on his fone so i had to email him and i got a response from him sayin he is in canada(i m from india) and if i tell him the prob he will try to help me if he can. i said its ok and den let him know that i agreed with his decision of not getting back together and thanked him for everything he did for me and apologised saying that i might have come across as being very demanding and pressurizing for him.he replied, yes he did feel dat a lot esp in the later mths of dating, but the first 6mths were a "rocking dream" to him:love:. he also said he is not blaming anyone and he will meet me wen he is back to india, after a year:(. i replied back saying that i dont want us to be freinds and we wud be sticking to his decisions, and i m moving on with my life and things are going great for me. he didnt reply to that, and a day later, he got back to me on chat again, acting as if nothing had happened, and tryin to make a pleasant conversation with me. i cut it short after a few lines and said i m getting late i have to go. i have 3 options now: 1. ignore him completely for a while since i have already told him i dont want us to be friends and dat i m moving on 2. talk to him on chat but casually. 3. not talk to him wen he is online but just get back to him after a while sayin that i have been busy and lettting him know casually whats happening in my life, and telling him i will get back to him for a chat maybe wen i m not so busy. whatver info i have found on net they are all saying that u shud be responding to ur ex if he is keepin in touch with u.but my ex is just contacting me once in a mth or so...i dont know how shud i be handling this...dat day on chat i spoke to him very casually and just cut short the conversation after a few lines and i thot by doing this, he will be tempted to make his contact with me more frequent, but he doesnt seem to be eager to make further contact, its been more than a week now. i know he will contact me sooner or later but he is acting very cold and not at all eager. plz tell me how do i make him to contact me more frequently ?he seems to be interested in talkin to me still but its like so infrequent. plus he is now in another country so howdo i reignite our relationship on the net?plz let me know ur views. should i ignore him coz i have told him i m moving on and dont want to be friends, or shud i respond to him like casually , or shud i respond to him saying that i m busy and i have things to do with other friends, and will get back to him?whats the best approach here?how do i make him intersted in me again? thanks buddies! shia
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