Hhhh Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 What a great forum I have been in the slums for 3 weeks but I'm finally getting better and realizing what is done is done and if she comes back great if she doesn't there's more fish in the sea Billie the puppet you cold hearted bastard you helped me a lot lollll
Billie The Puppet Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Wow I got a shout out! Glad my text/words have helped. Even if they came off cold hearted they were not meant to be. I was just trying to help like others here gave for me. I'm soon to be on week 6 NC and 9 weeks since broken up and I'm still having my moments. So what triggered this post ? Did something good happen?
Author Hhhh Posted October 8, 2010 Author Posted October 8, 2010 Wow I got a shout out! Glad my text/words have helped. Even if they came off cold hearted they were not meant to be. I was just trying to help like others here gave for me. I'm soon to be on week 6 NC and 9 weeks since broken up and I'm still having my moments. So what triggered this post ? Did something good happen? Lollll I guess i was reading over my post and your posts and they make sense to me much more now that I have had time pass by NC is the best way to go for me right now
Billie The Puppet Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Lollll I guess i was reading over my post and your posts and they make sense to me much more now that I have had time pass by NC is the best way to go for me right now Ah good for you, it's tough but in the long run better for you. I've done all the common dumpee mistakes so I post my experiences when I see a thread that resembles someone heading in the same direction. When I finally decided to go NC I still made the mistake of announcing it. I wish I did the dissapearing act. You'll still run into missing the ex. Heck J kind of replaced her by coming here. I still miss mine and want things to work out but know it us beyond my control. Am actually at the point where e-books to get you ex back would be for me to break NC and ask for a coffee date as "friends" etc. However I decided against schemes and just sticking to NC because I don't want to be rejected again as it would reset my NC clock .
Author Hhhh Posted October 8, 2010 Author Posted October 8, 2010 Ah good for you, it's tough but in the long run better for you. I've done all the common dumpee mistakes so I post my experiences when I see a thread that resembles someone heading in the same direction. When I finally decided to go NC I still made the mistake of announcing it. I wish I did the dissapearing act. You'll still run into missing the ex. Heck J kind of replaced her by coming here. I still miss mine and want things to work out but know it us beyond my control. Am actually at the point where e-books to get you ex back would be for me to break NC and ask for a coffee date as "friends" etc. However I decided against schemes and just sticking to NC because I don't want to be rejected again as it would reset my NC clock . May my acknowledge of your post brighten your day your right it's beyond our control all we can do is move on with our lives only time can mend a broken heart hope she comes around for you buddy
Gt.ooh Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Billie, I've only been on here for a week. Gotta say words and experiences form ppl definitely are helping me. NC depends on your situation.. choose wisely how you execute it.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Billie, I've only been on here for a week. Gotta say words and experiences form ppl definitely are helping me. NC depends on your situation.. choose wisely how you execute it. I joined in Sept I believe it was the first of sept. Went NC sept 3rd. Yes I obsoletely have the urge to break it but am a believer of natural reunion which means If it happens it happens. Planning to break NC is not a natural occurrence. I personally believe NC is meant fir almost every situation. There are a couple users here pining while on LC and I am willing to bet that's time wasted. While it is true NC has ti be broken at one time for reconciliation to occur the NC preceding it allowed both parties to move on and gather thoughts. LC to me only allows the dumper ti place you on the backburner, and makes the dumpees go through over analyzation and highs and lows. I've done over a month of both and I personally feel better in NC. However I am by no means healed but atleast I am not aggravating the ex with let's get back together thoughts and am not kicking my self for the very same mistake. I
Gt.ooh Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I joined in Sept I believe it was the first of sept. Went NC sept 3rd. Yes I obsoletely have the urge to break it but am a believer of natural reunion which means If it happens it happens. Planning to break NC is not a natural occurrence. I personally believe NC is meant fir almost every situation. There are a couple users here pining while on LC and I am willing to bet that's time wasted. While it is true NC has ti be broken at one time for reconciliation to occur the NC preceding it allowed both parties to move on and gather thoughts. LC to me only allows the dumper ti place you on the backburner, and makes the dumpees go through over analyzation and highs and lows. I've done over a month of both and I personally feel better in NC. However I am by no means healed but atleast I am not aggravating the ex with let's get back together thoughts and am not kicking my self for the very same mistake. I Very well said. I did LC for about a week and it was a week that would have been much better off with NC. Lets just say I no longer have her number, and FB is frozen... Pay close attention to this people. If you're just coming onto LS for the first time and no matter the origins of the break-up...go NC as soon as possible IF you want a reasonable chance at something down the road. Everyone goes through the highs and lows, but stick to it.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 If i's are in places where i's should be it's because of the damn iPhone same thing for u's in place of i's Unfortunately I found LS too late, though I was doing NC for myself only answering her contact which is Limited Contact. I felt completely lead on like she was confused because she was saying everything a dumpee would like to hear except reconciliation talks. I saw sign after sign that she made a mistake but when I acted on them it caused us both to have a huge fight and I was a member here at that time but fir some reason I was super confident and thought I was in the right state of mind. I've followed a few users here stories, Thorgs, Buccanneers, Ajax's, Fabio's and Collegeguy_24's and found similarities and even hope within the threads to apply to my situation. I urge people to ask questions here before they reply to an ex's contact or if they plan to break NC themselves like Hhhh did. Yes I have been brutal but I've done all the mistakes you can imagine so not only am I harsh on others but my self too. Personally Don Ho's replies helped me in the earlier stages. Now I'm here as time filler as I do live an introverted life style which will change when I am ready to date. Like colleges dates mine to failed but I have reason to believe they are failing because signs of me not being over my ex sneak through. I come here to offere advice and read it too. I absolutely believe in second chances unlike many users here. Not because I hope for one myself but they do happen. However I feel they happen naturally not by games. Unfortunately I believe my chances at a second chance are slim to none even though I hope for on still.
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