Author pollyanna22 Posted October 11, 2010 Author Posted October 11, 2010 here is my 2 cents --- my xMM told W he had NC on 4 different occasions and they were in MC (i would say we had 4 D Days) and he never stopped contact with me until now, when i did something different to make sure there could be NC,. With that said i think it depends on how long he was involved and to what degree the emotional attachments were and maybe how things ended. but if you are going to stay with this man then you have to trust what he says-- if not you will not heal and you will not move on with your recovery in your own M and why would you want to put yourself through all that doubting if you are wanting to stay in the R. Maybe you need to go NC as well with the xOW, and make her less important and stay focused on starting over in your M. you are so right, and our maarriage is getting stronger than it ever was, and their affair was about 3 months long. He says he was attracted to her apartment with no kids, no in laws...ect..no baggage I guess, but I know he had feelings, and i"m trying to except it, theres just those days that creep up and kick me in the ass! tx for your post
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