FaithInTheDark Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I met this guy 2 weeks ago and it seemed like we hit it off well. We went for drinks, had good conversations & even had a pretty hot and heavy make out session. We would txt fairly often afterword, but I am senseing I am trying but not getting much back. Example: there was a concert going on that he said he was going to, I straight up asked, maybe we could go togehter? He told me that he was going with some old time buddies he hasnt seen in 3 years or so. I kinda felt shot down but my friend told me that he prob wants to just spend time with ppl he hasnt seen in a long time and it cant be all about me. So I let it go. I like the guy, I saw him online and have mentioned hangin out this weekend and he said I could come by for a visit. But lately he hasnt been txting me. I saw him online again saying if you still want to hang out this weekend give me a txt. If he does not txt this weekend, does that mean hes lost interest? Should I just act like I dont care? and give up. Or should I message him and try to make plans? I dont want to seem like im clingy ( I have made sure I dont message him too often ie: I say Hi to him when i see him online or txt him 1 or 2 times a week. ..he had said hes been sick this week. Im just wondering if i should just stop contacting him and wait for him to ask me out for plans. I know i sound truly confused but any kind of advice would help. thanks
paleblue Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 ive noticed life seems to go so much easier when you just don’t give a crap. I wouldn’t bother to keep trying. he knows how to get in touch with you. he knows you want to do things. but is he there? doesn’t really seem that way. id back off and wait for him to ask you out for plans. and if you don’t hear from him for a few days or a week, id start looking elsewhere. you don’t want to find yourself in a situation where he is pulling your strings. that's my two cents.
Author FaithInTheDark Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 thank you, i will def take your advice
2sunny Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 don't make any more effort until he asks to see you.
mortensorchid Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I agree, the ball is in his court here. You have made your efforts to get together again clear and known, but you must wait for him to respond in a more positive way than these vague acknowledgements.
Author FaithInTheDark Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 this guy just turned out to be really odd. I found out he was interested in someone else the whole time. I saw something on his facebook, asked him about it and he told me him and his ex might get back together. I told him I would of appreciated it if he didnt play mind games and ended the conversation sayin how i felt disrespected. Now hes emailing me sayin Hi, and talking to me about our last talk. he randomly approaches me outside the store last night. he starts with small talk, i give him the message im not to friendly with everything. he tells me hes sorry, gives me a hug and i drove away. he emails me today sayin Hugs? I say its all good...( i am still hurt but dont want to drag it on, he knows how i feel and hes not makin much sense) AND he tells me how it was nice seein me last night? why is this guy still trying to keep in contact with me? does he want something ? or is he just tryin to be friends? I dont want to keep being reminded by him
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