Cee Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I was approached for an encounter by someone I dated a very long time ago. Nothing materialized b/c he broke off contact abruptly. I did some checking and discovered he's listed as engaged on Facebook. This guy told me he was single. I was going to let this matter go & block the guy forever. But a friend said that I should send a message to his fiancee. Because she's marrying him, she really needs to know to save her a lot of heartache. Should I forget about this whole thing or should I send a message telling the fiancee exactly what happened. We didn't ever meet up, but that was only because I was out of town. We communicated via IM, so I have the transcripts of proof of the conversations.
BruceLeroy Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 If I was thinking of buying a boat and someone knew it had a bad leak, I'd want to know and decide if I still wanted it. And a boat isn't a big of a deal as marriage.
Jannah Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I was approached for an encounter by someone I dated a very long time ago. Nothing materialized b/c he broke off contact abruptly. I did some checking and discovered he's listed as engaged on Facebook. This guy told me he was single. I was going to let this matter go & block the guy forever. But a friend said that I should send a message to his fiancee. Because she's marrying him, she really needs to know to save her a lot of heartache. Should I forget about this whole thing or should I send a message telling the fiancee exactly what happened. We didn't ever meet up, but that was only because I was out of town. We communicated via IM, so I have the transcripts of proof of the conversations. You should just reply back and state that if he contacts you again in the way that he did, you will forward the message to his wife-to-be.
InternationalPlayboy Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I always say stay out of other people's problems. Most people have enough problems without anyone else's help. Block the guy and never look back, but don't forward the message to his fiance.
donnamaybe Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 It will only be a problem if this poor gal marries the guy, unaware of his proclivity to sneak around behind her back. I'd tell her.
Dexter Morgan Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 Should I forget about this whole thing or should I send a message telling the fiancee exactly what happened. effin A you should tell his fiance! otherwise she'll be another casualty of a wife with a husband that is boning other women. tell her before she makes the biggest mistake of her life!
make me believe Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 You can tell her if you want, but honestly it probably won't make any difference. She is engaged to the guy, they likely have all kinds of wedding plans made & deposits put down... she won't want to believe what you say. He'll make you seem like some crazy psycho ex and she'll likely buy his story just because it's easier than facing the truth. My friend was with a guy for almost four years and he cheated on her towards the end. He stayed with the girl he cheated on her with, but the girl didn't know that he had been cheating on someone the whole time. My friend emailed the girl telling her everything, but the guy convinced her that my friend was just being psycho & wanted him back, blah blah. Long story short... he ended up getting engaged to the new girl and then cheating on HER, too. The new girl NEVER believed what my friend was saying, and unfortunately I doubt that this girl will either.
tigressA Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 She'll be much more likely to believe since the OP has proof of their IM conversations. OP, I say tell her. You'd be doing her a huge favor.
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