teanoranges Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 My relationship ended over a year ago. I was successful at implementing NC for 10 months, thanks also to a respectful ex. I have recently struck up conversation (in a sense) with my said ex and it made me want to post here for an 'update' and perhaps to give a little bit of hope to the heartbroken. It is no secret that I was torn in half from the breakup. I put my mind to it, believing and knowing that time will make the thoughts fade. and they have. It takes a tremendous effort for me to recall memories of what once was. Tremendous mostly because I have no need to look back. Having spoken and seen my ex, I couldn't help but wonder why we were together to begin with. We share nothing really in common and I have no feelings for him now. I hope it remains this way, but I don't see any issues since I have only seen him once in the two-ish months of re-opening communication. I can honestly look at him and feel like I picture being with someone different than what/who he is. NC truly did allow me to step back from the situation and see things for what they really are. My brain was a mess then and I couldn't think straight. Basically, I wanted to share. If you give yourself time and if you try to understand or try to believe you will overcome this time in your life, You Will! I wish you luck and happiness.
davisc123 Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 It's good to hear stories like this, especially as right now I am at a really low ebb. I was NC for a few weeks but I ruined it when she came running and I took her back. Alas, an unhappy 2 months down the line and I am back to square one. I actually forgot how much the pain hurts. Thanks for posting this it has cheered me up slightly, I really hope I can look at her one day with something approaching indifference.
hollywood292 Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I'm glad things are better for you. This gives me some hope. I'm at 2+ months NC, been NC since the break up...I no longer have moments where I want to text or call him, but I still miss and long for him. I just want this feeling to go away.
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