How do I help my abused lost neice

[scatterd]

I hurt so bad for my niece she is constantally in trouble and has no one that cares in the family besides myself.It started when she was 7 her step dad sexually abused her her mom devoriced him but she continued to have men around that also did the same thing.I dont know exactly how many times it happened but it was to many.She started using drugs early and hung around bad crowds she went though the court for not going to school and was on the run alot.She married in her early twentys had a child and was happy and such a good mom it was the happiest I had seen her since a child when her child turned 4 her husband left her for another woman which sent my neice into depression she asked a friend to take her to the hospital because she felt suicidal while there they called her soon to be X husband and told him she was un stable he came and took her child.She had no money for an attorney and her X lied and took her child while she was in jail.She ended up on drugs and hanging around gangs she got tickets for driving without plates

and someone she new ripped her X husbands house off she got blamed for doing it she got caught with drugs,and some guy she was with stabbed a guy

so being she was there she got thrown in jail she just went over the edge.She got out of jail a year ago and has a felony now.She called me yesterday crying and desperate because she has no money from paying for child support and such she lives with a guy and found out he cheated on her.She has no one to turn to her mom just bad mouths her to all the family which she is a drug addict her self and not a good person evryone says she deserves this and treats her like crap besides my children and myself.I talked to my husband about taken her in and trying to help her he said he would think about it.I hurt so bad for her I dont think she had a fair chance to begin with everyone says she is grown now so she has a choise I feel different her mom only wants money from her if she stays with her and spends it on drugs then lies and says she pays nothing.What do I do to help her do you think I can.I feel if I dont she will die and she is right when she says no one cares but the kids and I. please give me advice I think everyone deserves a chance.

Sorry this was so long their is so much more but im writing as short and simple as I can to get the point across.

Edited October 7, 2010 by scatterd

[turnera]

What I would do is research the resources available in your town and find what will work for her, and take her to them. Places like a halfway house, or a woman's shelter, that will help her find a job, get her mental help, stuff like that. I think she'll do better in an environment like that rather than in your house, where she'll do no learning.

[health]

It's messed but alot of victims of abuse repeat the same behaviours as adults - it's what they knew and what was familiar. It's painful but try not to be a co dependent and a rescuer yourself.

 

She needs to get help and therapy.