tina7563 Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 Hey all, This post will prolly be quite long, but please read as i need other peoples opinions on this topic. I cannot even believe i am doing this, i am not really good at being criticised but i am willing to be open to it by posting my dilemma on here. Ok here goes: I went out one night with my friend to a local bar, at the end of the night i met this guy, he was really nice (not usually my type) we started chatting and as he seemed like a decent guy i kissed him and gave him my number. Now this guy was really sweet and pretty much messaged me straight away, however it was a bit too much and it was kinda getting on my nerves. I ended up getting sick and the guy kept messaging and messaging so i was just over it so i did the classy thing and just stopped replying (i know i know, it is such a bitchy and cowardly thing to do) Anyway a couple of weeks later we went back to our local bar and he was there, he came up to me and pretended like nothing had happened and i ended up kissing him again (seriously what the hell is wrong with me?) I realised what i had done and i didn't want to hurt him again so i told him that i liked someone else and i was trying to make it work with him. he understood and he never messaged me again. (i know what your thinking,i am a real piece of work) Anyway i thought that was that and probably about a month later i went back to the local bar and had a great night. I got a little intoxicated and i ran into him again....one thing led to another and he ended up coming back to my house. You can probably guess what happened after that...... Anyhoo, i thought oh god i am never gonna get rid of him now and this is where it starts to get interesting.... He never messaged me after that night i even messaged him the day after and said "had a great night, was really fun we should do it again some time" (i don't know why i messaged him that, i just thought i would kinda break the ice as if to say no hard feelings) Anyway i started thinking to myself, was this all the guy was after in the first place, or did he get the best revenge ever by sleeping with me and not contacting me again. I also asked him if he had facebook and he said nah i have only ever used it once, but i ended up finding him on facebook and it says that he is in a relationship. I just need your opinion? Was this guys intention to get me into bed from the start or did he get the ultimate revenge? P.S. thanks for reading my novel, and please try to be kind
Fouts Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 From a guy's pov. He probably liked you at first, but then you blew him off. He found a girlfriend, then ran into you again and you offered "it" to him. His line of thinking was to give you a try and see if it clicked. If so, he probably would've hooked up with you and dumped the girlfriend. It didn't click, so he kept the girlfriend and blew you off. Kind of sucks, but either way it probably wouldn't have worked.
TerryH Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 You were a booty call, men want that but don't like when a woman falls for it, if they don't have to chase after it..hooking up too soon is the fastest way to lose a guy's interest
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 10, 2010 Posted October 10, 2010 i even messaged him the day after and said "had a great night, was really fun we should do it again some time" (i don't know why i messaged him that, i just thought i would kinda break the ice as if to say no hard feelings) Anyway i started thinking to myself, was this all the guy was after in the first place, or did he get the best revenge ever by sleeping with me and not contacting me again. I also asked him if he had facebook and he said nah i have only ever used it once, but i ended up finding him on facebook and it says that he is in a relationship. I just need your opinion? Was this guys intention to get me into bed from the start or did he get the ultimate revenge? P.S. thanks for reading my novel, and please try to be kind I am voting "neither one" on this question. This was a series of encounters that each impacted the next ones, and when you both fumbled the ball repeatedly it just became the clustered mess that it was. Do yourself the favor of NOT incorporating this data (I.E. anything you think you might have learned from the experiences with this guy) into how you present yourself socially in the future. Indeed he may have found you sexually attractive at the first encounter, but nothing assures that his sole motive was to have sex with you. Your subsequent responses and his each played a role that clouded everything.
Author tina7563 Posted October 11, 2010 Author Posted October 11, 2010 Thanks guys, it is really good to get a guys opinion on all of this. truth hurts, but hey we live and we learn. From this day forward, i will never ever let a guy treat me like this again. I believe that everything happens for a reason, at the moment i am unsure of that reason, but it will soon all become clear. Its just really hard to trust guys after this whole saga, so next time the poor guy will have to work (very hard) to earn my trust.
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