Whatsagirltodo Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I feel like such a worthless piece of crap, I have nobody to talk to or that will even listen, so I guess as pathetic as it is, I'm going to make a thread to a bunch of strangers pouring my heart out. I'm so heart broken. I don't understand how he could do this to me. How he could replace me so easily and so quickly. How he can go on with his life like nothing ever happened, like I never existed. How he can treat me like I never even mattered to him at all. It hurts so damn much and I hate that I'm here struggling every damn day to just get by and he's perfectly fine without a care in the world. I bet he's having the time of his life. I don't understand what I did to deserve this. I loved and care about him so much.. I feel so betrayed, so humiliated, so insignificant.. I try so hard to stay positive and keep myself busy, but no matter what I do or where I am, I carry this heavy heart and it feels like I'm suffocating. I just cant understand why this happened.. the way it happened. Why does it have to hurt so much.. how can he just get away with causing me so much pain and torment and move on so quickly? I'm sorry, I'm having a really horrible night, I guess I feel somewhat better getting this out to people who could be or have gone through the same thing, wondering the same thing, asking themselves the same questions.. I just don't want to feel this way anymore. I'm so lost and don't know what to do.
skydiveaddict Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 What you have is a broken heart. Believe me, those feelings, as terrible as they are, are a normal part of the healing process. Many of us here, (including me) know just what you are feeling. It will pass with time, and you will be ok. You're just gonna have to go through it. But like I said, you WILL be ok, and there is someone out there for you much better than him. Take care. SDA
Author Whatsagirltodo Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 Thanks for your reply, Skydiveaddict, I appreciate it. I know I have to get through this and eventually I will, it just hurts so much right now. I really hope I do find someone better, even though right now (and I'm sure its all apart of it) it feels like I'm going to be alone forever. I don't know how I'm going to find someone else.
skydiveaddict Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 (edited) You WILL find someone better. That's how life is. As tortured as your soul is right now, that's how life works. No way around it, you must live through it, and you will. Be brave, be strong and know that you are not alone. You will find that special someone, he is out there waiting for you. Heal up, and then go find him. I will of course expext an invitation to the wedding Edited October 7, 2010 by skydiveaddict
Ajax Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I feel like such a worthless piece of crap, I have nobody to talk to or that will even listen, so I guess as pathetic as it is, I'm going to make a thread to a bunch of strangers pouring my heart out. I'm so heart broken. I don't understand how he could do this to me. How he could replace me so easily and so quickly. How he can go on with his life like nothing ever happened, like I never existed. How he can treat me like I never even mattered to him at all. It hurts so damn much and I hate that I'm here struggling every damn day to just get by and he's perfectly fine without a care in the world. I bet he's having the time of his life. I don't understand what I did to deserve this. I loved and care about him so much.. I feel so betrayed, so humiliated, so insignificant.. I try so hard to stay positive and keep myself busy, but no matter what I do or where I am, I carry this heavy heart and it feels like I'm suffocating. I just cant understand why this happened.. the way it happened. Why does it have to hurt so much.. how can he just get away with causing me so much pain and torment and move on so quickly? I'm sorry, I'm having a really horrible night, I guess I feel somewhat better getting this out to people who could be or have gone through the same thing, wondering the same thing, asking themselves the same questions.. I just don't want to feel this way anymore. I'm so lost and don't know what to do. I also know how you feel. You give someone your best and they treat you like it doesn't matter. My recent ex is "erasing" me from her past, despite the fact that all i ever did was try to make her happy. It sucks, but it happens to good people all the time. Pain is part of the healing process, and it takes time to get through.
health Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I feel like such a worthless piece of crap, I have nobody to talk to or that will even listen, so I guess as pathetic as it is, I'm going to make a thread to a bunch of strangers pouring my heart out. I'm so heart broken. I don't understand how he could do this to me. How he could replace me so easily and so quickly. How he can go on with his life like nothing ever happened, like I never existed. How he can treat me like I never even mattered to him at all. It hurts so damn much and I hate that I'm here struggling every damn day to just get by and he's perfectly fine without a care in the world. I bet he's having the time of his life. I don't understand what I did to deserve this. I loved and care about him so much.. I feel so betrayed, so humiliated, so insignificant.. I try so hard to stay positive and keep myself busy, but no matter what I do or where I am, I carry this heavy heart and it feels like I'm suffocating. I just cant understand why this happened.. the way it happened. Why does it have to hurt so much.. how can he just get away with causing me so much pain and torment and move on so quickly? I'm sorry, I'm having a really horrible night, I guess I feel somewhat better getting this out to people who could be or have gone through the same thing, wondering the same thing, asking themselves the same questions.. I just don't want to feel this way anymore. I'm so lost and don't know what to do. I'm sorry to hear that. Please just take time for yourself. When you get in a new relationship make sure you really like the other person, and that they like you just as much! Otherwise you'll feel cheated. He probably did like you as much - but he lost, forget about him - as hard as it is. AT least you saved yourself years and years of giving your energy to something that is crap. Stick to no contact. I've been at no contact for almost 2 years - I recently broke it just to say I'm healed and wish my ex the best - and I regretted that big time! Just focus on improving and get with someone that will appreciate you to the core!
Author Whatsagirltodo Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 You WILL find someone better. That's how life is. As tortured as your soul is right now, that's how life works. No way around it, you must live through it, and you will. Be brave, be strong and know that you are not alone. You will find that special someone, he is out there waiting for you. Heal up, and then go find him. I will of course expext an invitation to the wedding Will I though? Nothing is ever a guaranteed thing, I feel. I really do hope and wish there is that someone.. & trust me, I'm going to take the time to heal so I can go into this relationship and give it my all but deep down I'm always scared I'm not going to find that person.. that or it's never going to be like the one I had with my ex. I don't know, probably thinking too ahead of myself or something. Thanks again skydiveaddict.
Div Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 A lot of people on this forum have been exactly where you are and pulled through just fine. Understand these feelings are NORMAL and I promise you will come out the end of this as a better person. Accept the feelings as they are, don't try to shrug them off. Now is the time you need to work on yourself. Treat yourself & learn to love life on your own. Exercise and good friends will help you get through this
Author Whatsagirltodo Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 I also know how you feel. You give someone your best and they treat you like it doesn't matter. My recent ex is "erasing" me from her past, despite the fact that all i ever did was try to make her happy. It sucks, but it happens to good people all the time. Pain is part of the healing process, and it takes time to get through. I'm sorry to hear you are going through this too, it truly sucks. I just don't understand the mentality of being able to live like nothing ever happened. I'm not saying hold on to it all but you'd think if they really did love and care about you, it wouldn't be that easy, right? I know it takes time and I've still got a whole lot of time to heal, I just wish it would at least start getting a little easier. Everyday feels the same, no difference. It still hurts just the same. Blah, I don't know... Thank you for taking time out and replying to my thread.
Username37 Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I feel like such a worthless piece of crap, I have nobody to talk to or that will even listen, so I guess as pathetic as it is, I'm going to make a thread to a bunch of strangers pouring my heart out. I felt the same way when I was heartbroken. But there are people that will listen to you. Your friends and your family to name a few. And LS is not a bad place because we're all feeling the same pain, and there are many of us that moved on that would love to help you. I'm so heart broken. I don't understand how he could do this to me. How he could replace me so easily and so quickly. How he can go on with his life like nothing ever happened, like I never existed. How he can treat me like I never even mattered to him at all. It hurts so damn much and I hate that I'm here struggling every damn day to just get by and he's perfectly fine without a care in the world. I bet he's having the time of his life. I don't understand what I did to deserve this. I loved and care about him so much.. I feel so betrayed, so humiliated, so insignificant.. Gah, my ex replaced me 3 weeks after the break up with some guy she met at a party and 5 months later, she got a new boyfriend. That feeling of being replaced ****ing blows. You gotta try and not think about him because he's not thinking about you. Think about the future and forget the quitter. The future is beautiful.
Author Whatsagirltodo Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 I'm sorry to hear that. Please just take time for yourself. When you get in a new relationship make sure you really like the other person, and that they like you just as much! Otherwise you'll feel cheated. He probably did like you as much - but he lost, forget about him - as hard as it is. AT least you saved yourself years and years of giving your energy to something that is crap. Stick to no contact. I've been at no contact for almost 2 years - I recently broke it just to say I'm healed and wish my ex the best - and I regretted that big time! Just focus on improving and get with someone that will appreciate you to the core! Oh, I have been and will continue to take time for myself, there's no way I could be in another relationship until I feel like I'm fully ready. Our relationship was 3 years and it took less than a month for him to move on with someone he claimed to have always hated/found annoying. I don't understand it but apparently makes sense to him now and he's fine with it. I haven't initiated contact with him at all, he has a couple times but only about stupid pointless things.. only to prove to me each time how much he doesn't care anymore.
skydiveaddict Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 Will I though? Nothing is ever a guaranteed thing, I feel. I really do hope and wish there is that someone.. & trust me, I'm going to take the time to heal so I can go into this relationship and give it my all but deep down I'm always scared I'm not going to find that person.. that or it's never going to be like the one I had with my ex. I don't know, probably thinking too ahead of myself or something. Thanks again skydiveaddict. Don't be scared. YOU WILL find him, your ex will be a foregone conclusion. Right now, concentrate on getting well. You have time. You must first heal before you can move on.
Author Whatsagirltodo Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 I felt the same way when I was heartbroken. But there are people that will listen to you. Your friends and your family to name a few. And LS is not a bad place because we're all feeling the same pain, and there are many of us that moved on that would love to help you. Gah, my ex replaced me 3 weeks after the break up with some guy she met at a party and 5 months later, she got a new boyfriend. That feeling of being replaced ****ing blows. You gotta try and not think about him because he's not thinking about you. Think about the future and forget the quitter. The future is beautiful. I do have friends, don't get me wrong, but not any I can call up and will listen to me when I'm having a bad night.. they usually just give me the same typical responses.. As for my family, no. I can't talk to them at all and it's really depressing. If I even begin to start on my feelings, they get mad and start yelling at me. It makes me feel even worse so I just avoid talking to them about it all together. I'm sorry to hear about your ex replacing you. It honestly does blow. It's the worst feeling in the world. Thanks for your reply, I appreciate it.
Author Whatsagirltodo Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 Don't be scared. YOU WILL find him, your ex will be a foregone conclusion. Right now, concentrate on getting well. You have time. You must first heal before you can move on. I understand, I am concentrating on getting well. I know it will take time, I just never want to be hurt like this ever again.
skydiveaddict Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I understand, I am concentrating on getting well. I know it will take time, I just never want to be hurt like this ever again. I'm still trying to get over some one after a year. I don't think I could stand the hurt again
Username37 Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I do have friends, don't get me wrong, but not any I can call up and will listen to me when I'm having a bad night.. they usually just give me the same typical responses.. As for my family, no. I can't talk to them at all and it's really depressing. If I even begin to start on my feelings, they get mad and start yelling at me. It makes me feel even worse so I just avoid talking to them about it all together. I'm sorry to hear about your ex replacing you. It honestly does blow. It's the worst feeling in the world. Thanks for your reply, I appreciate it. I can relate. My friends give me the typical responses too. So that's why I've been on LS (they give GREAT advice) And I'm sorry about your family. My family sometimes crack jokes about my break up and they give me the same typical responses. Yeah it is, but whatever, she's pathetic and a total insecure bitch. I deserve better than that and you deserve better too. I wish you luck and stick with Loveshack and NC. This place rocks
Author Whatsagirltodo Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 I can relate. My friends give me the typical responses too. So that's why I've been on LS (they give GREAT advice) And I'm sorry about your family. My family sometimes crack jokes about my break up and they give me the same typical responses. Yeah it is, but whatever, she's pathetic and a total insecure bitch. I deserve better than that and you deserve better too. I wish you luck and stick with Loveshack and NC. This place rocks Yeah, that's why I finally decided to post a thread. I have been lurking for a while and have gotten good advice from just reading threads. It's alright, not your fault. You can't pick your family, lol. Unfortunately, I do wish they would be a little more supportive for me as I'm going through one of the hardest things I'd say I've gone through in my life so far. He was my first serious relationship and I've never been this hurt by anyone before. That's why I'm going to stick with LS and continue reading threads about people who have been through this. I know hearts are broken everyday but once yours is it's the loneliest feeling in the world. I wish you luck as well and you definitely do deserve better!
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