Can women ask a guy out first?

[Z_man]

I was wondering, since roles have been getting less traditional, would it also be ok nowadays if women asked the guy out first? I hear about ladies complaining that they send signals to a guy and then the guy doesn't respond. Well what if women just went up and asked the guy out, for a drink, or for a dance? Would that violate some traditional norm, even in this 21st Century? How open minded are people today, towards either side taking charge?

[Kat]

can a woman ask a guy out first?

 

Yes

[SoleMate]

Yes.

[Benedict]

... back in the days when I could accept.

 

I thought it was very cool. She ended up being a really fun girl, too. We had good times.

[WWDDFD]

Hell yeah. I don't think women understand how much of a turn-on it is for us to be asked out by them.

 

 

Women: COME AND GET ME!

[Curt]

Definitely.

 

IMHO, if a gal finds a guy to her liking, there is absolutely nothing wrong with her making the first move.

 

It may be a little less traditional, but certainly a breath of fresh air, to see that women now are taking more of an active role in the pursuit.

 

If it's done with tact (I guess the same rule applies for the ladies as the gentlemen in this respect), it may start off what could become a lifelong friendship, or loving relationship between two people.

 

Seize the day ladies! Time and tide await no (wo)man.

 

Curt

[brashgal]

Tomorrow is Feb 29th - it's traditional for women to ask men out on this day.

[Arabess]

I never hesitate to ask a guy out. I don't use the 'date' word.....I just ask him if he wants to meet for a couple of drinks.

[CoCoTower]

Arabess has the idea. Don't use the word "date" and things go better I think.

 

This may sound shocking to the guys who stick to a firm set of rules, but my first blind date ever was in 1997, and she asked me out over the phone. I was set up by her sister. How did the date go? VERY well. In fact, some months later, I married the girl, and I now have two nice kids. But I'm divorced now, (have full custody of kids) and back in the dating game. Actually, I haven't had many since, but they've all asked me out somehow or another.

 

All in all, I've been asked out more by woman than I have asked woman out, and I don't think it's because of my looks because I'm NOT perfect or a "stud". I think this is partly due to my being slightly shy or clammy when it comes to meeting women because I feel like I'm going to get shot down, and rejection hurts a lot to me. Being approached by an attractive lady is the best feeling ever. Not only does it give us a break, but it just feels good, period. If you're not in a relationship, go ahead and say yes to whatever she wants to do and go have fun. After all, do men say no when they're single? If so, something's wrong with their hormones.

 

Ofcourse, last week I accepted a date from a girl I've had a crush on for a year and I thought a dream was coming true, but after the very heated date, she wants to be friends, so this one didn't go too well for me and it kinda hurt the ole heart a little if you know what I mean. Sometimes you can look into their eyes and know they are what you want and the risk is worth it, but when they're confused and trying to mix relationships, somebody's gonna get hurt for sure.

 

I think I prefer waiting for the lady to ask me out even if it means landing much fewer dates. I've sort of fell into this class somehow by my personality or the way I give vibes or something, but I hope it doesn't make me less of a man. After all, I am working hard to try to get her to ask me out, so it's almost the same thing. It's a game, I guess.

[Z_man]

Well Cocotower, I think you fell into a very fortunate category. How flattering can it be for a guy to be asked out by a gal? I am shy too and sometimes the other gender is the saving grace, when they give me the nudge and ask me out. I don't expect them to do all the work, neither side should be stuck with all the burden, it's just nice to see things go the other way once in a while:)