Peso Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 (edited) Anyway ok. Despite having a bachelor's degree I lived with my mother for a while (still kinda do). We live/lived in a neighborhood where I met a beautiful 43 year old woman (me being 25). She lived across the street. We hit it off and fell in love. In 4 months time! Anyway to keep this condensed her sis, bro in law, and niece all came up for a visit, Thurs-Sun. I came over and met them on Fri. I left a gift basket for them to find on the Thurs. they arrived. On Fri. I brought over a clock I knew my gf would love (and she did). I met everyone. I received nothing but accolades. My gf told me she loved me, she wanted me to meet her parents and wanted to come and visit me where I go to graduate school ( About 1 month ago I started graduate school in another town, approx. 2 hours away. I have my own place up there but have successfully been able to come down every weekend to see her, hence the still "kinda do" statement). She told me that my niece (5 yrs old) had to surely meet and play with her niece (4 yrs old). My niece was spending the night at my moms that night and she asked when she was leaving the next day. I told her 4:30 PM but also told her I could keep her later and take her back home myself. She mentioned she wanted to do dinner for all of us. As I left she said she would call me about when we could and what we would do. I then asked her "so you'll call me" and she said "yes". So two times she said she would call. Well the next day me and my niece planned our whole day around that. I waited and waited. At 4:30 I texted, 5:00 I called and left a message, I then called at 6:15 and 6:35. No response. I was worried. If this was gonna be dinner it would be late one!! I proceeded to walk across the st. with my niece and they invited me inside. They told me they were getting ready to go out for dinner. I encountered my gf and told her she didn't call. She was really short with me and told me simply she forgot to call. Like somehow she didn't want me there. Ok a sidenote here. If I forgot to call (and said twice I would) I would be soooo apologetic when I figured out I forgot. We all proceeded from inside to outside while she walked the dog. My niece and her's started to play. The dad then told her neice that she could play with her when she got back from dinner. They then told us bye. When proceeded to go back across the street. OK, if the plan was dinner why tell us bye? Why not invite us along? I was soo perplexed and hurt. My niece became upset. I was too. My mom was too. The thought arose that she blew us off. Maybe perhaps she decided it wasn't a good idea. So she decided not to call. Decided not to take my calls and hoped it would all go away. We proceeded to have kinda a text argument where she again was very short with her apologies. I asked her if she forgot or if she blew us off. I then told her my niece and my mom were upset. I then texted and told her I knew she forgot (Even though didnt really believe it) but just to tell me what happened. Nothing. Eventually I went by the next day and it was splitsville. She doin the splittin,me I was willin for bygones to be bygones. I said goodbye to her family. And there ya go... Right at 2 weeks later and dont know much else. I called and texted, what gives? Why not invite us to dinner? Again I still dont know much else. We have had limited contact (mainly by email) but I know if I asked that she wouldnt respond back. My whole family thinks she blew us off. What does everyone think? Edited October 6, 2010 by Peso
durkadurka Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Bro, you're an ocd psycho that's moving too fast. She's an older woman and you're 25, she's seen this before and is running in the other direction.
Author Peso Posted October 6, 2010 Author Posted October 6, 2010 Bro, you're an ocd psycho that's moving too fast. She's an older woman and you're 25, she's seen this before and is running in the other direction. Why is that ocd? I dont get it. We both could tell each other we loved each other. I know 4 months but whatever...
durkadurka Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Why is that ocd? I dont get it. We both could tell each other we loved each other. I know 4 months but whatever... Because you call, you pester. 4 months is really quick, and it really seems that you smothered her.
Author Peso Posted October 6, 2010 Author Posted October 6, 2010 Because you call, you pester. 4 months is really quick, and it really seems that you smothered her. I called because no one called me, like she said she said she would. Doesnt make me a psycho. Makes me concerned. Smothered ah well maybe, who knows.
durkadurka Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I called because no one called me, like she said she said she would. Doesnt make me a psycho. Makes me concerned. Smothered ah well maybe, who knows. Calling once is fine, calling several times is OCD and psycho in a womans eyes. Even if it is justified.
redmelon Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I think you tried to be very detailed in telling the story, but it still feels like something is missing. If that's really how it all went down it sounds like she handled the whole thing in a really immature and unneccessary fashion. I am sure it is hurtful, and I am sorry she is putting you through this. I would not contact her any further, and understand that unfortunately you don't always get your questions answered in these sorts of situations.
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