TeyuhT Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 My gf and I just recently broke up for a second time. The first time was because of indifferences that lead to some fighting. We were apart for 2 months. I was so despaired and did some deep thinking. I figured out what went wrong, she saw it, and we reconnected. Unfortunately after we got back and the 3 month honey moon stage ended. The old problems crept back. The problem was, we never worked things out and talked about why we broke up in the first place. Now it's been about a month since we broke up again. I'm doing the best I can to give her space. I still have a lot of feelings for her and I know we are compatible if we can sit down and work things out. I have good reasons to know she's talking to someone else right now. I don't want to butt into that yet. I'm willing to wait and let her see the differences between me and this guy, and maybe start to compare me a little and realized that I was really good to her. Should I even bother to attempt for a third try? I know it will be hard and I won't put all my chips on the table for that. But she is worth the fight in my eyes.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 This forum is harsh enough on 2nd chances but I don't blame you for wanting a 3rd chance as I'm in the same situation but I do feel your chances are slim. You had a 2 month relationship followed by a 3 month second chances to me that's not even through the honey moon stage and if you can't make it through that either time I don't think the ex will vie for a 3rd try. My relationship was nearly 3 years and marriage was discussed literally a week before she split. My chances are slim. The key is not to try, if it happens it happens but trying will not only put pressure on the ex but it will be more damaging to you. I gave up trying 5 weeks ago. I was using NC as a game and it's still in my mind that I hope it will work but I know it's purpose is for me to heal which I admit is slowly working. Now it's become a different game in which I want to beat the highscore.
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