donnamaybe Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 takes away the stigma of datign a short Man in this society. Ha! Stigma? There's no stigma in my world for dating MY short man. Actually, I have a new living room to show for it and a new pool room/bar on the way with more to follow. Not to mention the best loving EVER!
DontWorryBHappy Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Let me chime in. My current boyfriend is an inch and a half or so shorter than me (and I'm around 5'6") and he's actually turned down a lot of girls in his past. It's because he has a cute face, a good body, and is utterly charming. He has an ability to make people feel special when he interacts with them and many people are drawn to it. Probably for about one or two days I was unsure about his height but I quickly forgot about it and now I know I wouldn't change one single thing about him. He's perfect in my eyes, and I should also note that another one of my past boyfriends was shorter than me too (and no, I do not go for "short" guys.... my boyfriend before this current one was above 6 feet). In my experience the guy's height did not impact my feelings for them at all. However that being said, I wouldn't be with a guy whose height was very DRASTICALLY shorter than mine. Such as a 5'3" guy with me being slightly above 5'6". But a bit shorter is fine.... So shorter guys should know that if they have something desirable about them, they should be able to find a girl who will recognize that.
donnamaybe Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 So rather than see the "exceptions" as a glimmer of hope, you instead create another rule by claiming that the women who have a shorter guy must be fat and have a bunch of kids. When my guy and I were first dating, we were at a street dance, and his adult son (23 at the time) was with us. I was standing by his son, and my guy had gone to get us drinks. A friend of his came over and, motioning toward me, said to my guy, "Man, I bet you wish you could get somethin' like that!" He thought I was with his son! The thing is, the qualities my man possesses are far and above superior to that of so many other men, at least in my eyes.
FryFish Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Wait.... Donna, your guys adult son is 23? How old does that make you? You arent an exception to the rule you are proving it... A short guy got a good looking chick... AFTER her glory years.
donnamaybe Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Of course I'm going to date in my age range. It would kind of stupid NOT to, although I've been hit on by guys between 10-20 years younger than I - short AND tall. I dated short guys before my first marriage, too. You aren't making any point clearer except for the point I am making. Height has NOTHING to do with it. If all a guy cares about is measuring up to the yardstick of a shallow woman, then he has WAY bigger issues than his height.
Content Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Some of you are pathetic! theyres people without limbs who are happy in their lives yet being 5'7 two inches under the average is some sort of death sentence:rolleyes: Ive honestly never seen height brought up or as a big deal in the datign scene until i came online,i think some women throw their ideals out there online and because the number 6 foot sounds hot but in reality they couldnt tell 5'10 from 6 feet Ive heard a few women in real life claim they prefer tall men but its very few,i see people of all heights weight hair color level of attractivness in relationships in the millions over the years Grow a set of balls and approach women iinsetad of blaming something so trivial
Surrealist Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Some of you are pathetic! theyres people without limbs who are happy in their lives yet being 5'7 two inches under the average is some sort of death sentence:rolleyes: Ive honestly never seen height brought up or as a big deal in the datign scene until i came online,i think some women throw their ideals out there online and because the number 6 foot sounds hot but in reality they couldnt tell 5'10 from 6 feet Ive heard a few women in real life claim they prefer tall men but its very few,i see people of all heights weight hair color level of attractivness in relationships in the millions over the years Grow a set of balls and approach women iinsetad of blaming something so trivial I agree but this just goes to show how shallow and trivial dating has become, regardless of gender. An argument can be made where women develop almost anorexic conditions (not talking about anorexia as a clinical mental illness or condition but just women obsessing over their weight) when guys for the most part love lots of women with a bit of shape and voluptuousness.
Content Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I agree but this just goes to show how shallow and trivial dating has become, regardless of gender. An argument can be made where women develop almost anorexic conditions (not talking about anorexia as a clinical mental illness or condition but just women obsessing over their weight) when guys for the most part love lots of women with a bit of shape and voluptuousness. Im not saying both genders arent extremely shallow at times but theres sane people who arent and one must find those. Most people i see in relationships are just avergae looking and not models so mmillions of people apparently arent that shallow And you're right most guys i know dont like anorexic women but women are obessed with their weight and think they need to be a size 0,though i dont know if thats necassarily for Men but to compete with other women at times
nddb Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Im not saying both genders arent extremely shallow at times but theres sane people who arent and one must find those. Most people i see in relationships are just avergae looking and not models so mmillions of people apparently arent that shallow And you're right most guys i know dont like anorexic women but women are obessed with their weight and think they need to be a size 0,though i dont know if thats necassarily for Men but to compete with other women at times Yes. But women do have an obsession with guy's height. Their own weight is another obsession. I am not a woman so I won't comment there but speaking as one guy, I don't get the obsession with thinness for women. Ironically, I ended up marrying one who was and is thin but if my wife is anywhere from 10-40 lbs over Hollywood's "ideal", that won't even register with me. There are too many other more important characteristics... Besides, being soft and curvy is feminine. As long as mentally, she's not a lazy, junk food scarfing pig, one can't be faulted for genetics. And definitely not obese to the point of unhealthy. I wouldn't mind it if my wife puts on more curves but she prides herself on fitting into her college clothes so it won't happen anytime soon. Just don't be a couch potato, be caring and loving and active, and weight is way down the list of important things in life. But this only proves I'm out of touch with what's currently in vogue.
Surrealist Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 And we could possible be talking of two different dynamics here, not saying it is true but a possibility. Perhaps the internet dating culture is different to that of the real world (if I can use that term). Perhaps there is much more emphasis on the physical appearance? Nddb also makes a valid point - with regard to weight, beyond natural curves, women who get obese will likely not get any, or many, dates no matter how great their personality may be. Obesity is not attractive whether male or female.
Content Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 (edited) Yes. But women do have an obsession with guy's height. Their own weight is another obsession. I am not a woman so I won't comment there but speaking as one guy, I don't get the obsession with thinness for women. Ironically, I ended up marrying one who was and is thin but if my wife is anywhere from 10-40 lbs over Hollywood's "ideal", that won't even register with me. There are too many other more important characteristics... Besides, being soft and curvy is feminine. As long as mentally, she's not a lazy, junk food scarfing pig, one can't be faulted for genetics. And definitely not obese to the point of unhealthy. I wouldn't mind it if my wife puts on more curves but she prides herself on fitting into her college clothes so it won't happen anytime soon. Just don't be a couch potato, be caring and loving and active, and weight is way down the list of important things in life. But this only proves I'm out of touch with what's currently in vogue. I dont know if women have a height obssesion i know its important to them but as so logn as the guy is taller then them Ive met very few who only date 6 feet and up As i said online seems to be much more harsher,ive seen girls on hrefuse to date guys the yare the same height as in 4 or 5 inch heell and im thinking whod want such a mental case but ive never seen that in real life In real life i doubt a 5"2 girl who says she wants guys 5'10 and up could tell how tall a 5'8 or 5'9 guy is right away and if she was attracted to him i doubt shed let a few inches get in the way of a connection I could be wrong but i doubt women have gotten that extremely shallow Edited October 12, 2010 by Content
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 One myth thats been destroyed that women cosntnatly push down our throats especially on here is how more superfiical and visual guys are then women when women seem to be even moreso Men seem to be more willing to bend on certain physical preferences where these are REQUEIREMNTS for women I dont want to hear whining on how theres no good Men left anymore when you automatically dismiss more then half the male population off the bat with your height requierements Gotta love American princesses Spot on. And it doesn't just apply to Americans. Come to Europe and you will see that they're no different. I've lost count of how many times I've read this on someone's internet dating profile - "I like to wear heels, so I prefer tall men". So not only do you have to be taller than her, but you have to be taller than her in her heels.
donnamaybe Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 There are women who are gold diggers. Don't have enough money? Whine about it. There are women who are into looks primarily. Not good looking enough? Whine about it. There are women who are all about power and status. Aren't in the limelight or popular enough? Whine about it. There are women who want a capable man. Don't have enough handyman skills? Whine about it. There are women who want a man who has a large package. Have a small one? Whine about it. There are women who want a man who is skillful on the dance floor. Can't dance? Whine about it. There are women who want a tall man. Not tall enough? Obviously, whine about it.
irc333 Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Women who want a man that whines. You don't whine? Then whine about it. lol There are women who are gold diggers. Don't have enough money? Whine about it. There are women who are into looks primarily. Not good looking enough? Whine about it. There are women who are all about power and status. Aren't in the limelight or popular enough? Whine about it. There are women who want a capable man. Don't have enough handyman skills? Whine about it. There are women who want a man who has a large package. Have a small one? Whine about it. There are women who want a man who is skillful on the dance floor. Can't dance? Whine about it. There are women who want a tall man. Not tall enough? Obviously, whine about it.
irc333 Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Spot on. And it doesn't just apply to Americans. Come to Europe and you will see that they're no different. I've lost count of how many times I've read this on someone's internet dating profile - "I like to wear heels, so I prefer tall men". So not only do you have to be taller than her, but you have to be taller than her in her heels. Wait, you mean taller than her when I'm wearing heels?
donnamaybe Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Women who want a man that whines. You don't whine? Then whine about it. lol GOOD one!
AD1980 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Just look at how many articles there are on how much more women lust for tall men,look at the internet dating sites/forums like this and and youtube of short guys who cant get women because of their height,to simply ignore it and say i tdoesnt exist and short guys are paranoid and should stop whining is ignorant.. I think the biggest hurt is that not only is it the biggest physical delabreaker in the dating world but its the oen trait that cant be changed and theres also a cosndescending atitude towards short Men as if theyre less of a Man.. Obviously theres short guys with women because theres not enough tall guys to go around so being short isnt a death sentence but its like coming out of Prison looking for a decent job..
donnamaybe Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 theres also a cosndescending atitude towards short Men as if theyre less of a Man...I firmly believe that this is because they ACT like less of a man because of their own feelings about it.
AD1980 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I firmly believe that this is because they ACT like less of a man because of their own feelings about it. BS,i dont know how many times ive heard condescending things about Men a women didnt even know because of therye height To women height=masculinity shortness=feminine
donnamaybe Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 BS,i dont know how many times ive heard condescending things about Men a women didnt even know because of therye height To women height=masculinity shortness=feminineWhatever you say.
USMCHokie Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 BS,i dont know how many times ive heard condescending things about Men a women didnt even know because of therye height And I could probably say condescending things about those same women because of their character.
donnamaybe Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 And I could probably say condescending things about those same women because of their character.Exactly! If a guy is gonna let some shallow woman dictate how he feels about himself, then he's not much of a man anyway. As the Dixie Chicks would say, There's Yer Trouble.
Dante311 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Articles prove nothing. this is an artifact of a fantasy. This proves nothing in reality. Women are immediately attracted to taller guys, perhaps... but at the end of the day the art of attraction and all these stereotypical cliches that draw a woman to a man do not substantiate in the real world. There is a lot that defines how a woman will be attracted to a man... and height is only a small component of a much larger equation. I think the Adonis complexities of initial attraction can personify the underlying selfishness of a woman and reflect insecurities... or lack thereof, but just b/c I'm 6'1" doesn't mean I'm going to draw in the majority of women. I would hope they're finding interest b/c I stride with confidence... why? Because I'm comfortable with myself.
Sweetie1977 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 (edited) I admit id prefer an average or even ugly 6 foot guy over say a "good looking" 5'8 guy but only because of the difference in build and look I get offended when people say women just throw a height out that sounds good and have no idea what theyre talking about Most womens line for a guy is around 5'10 that is because Mens build looks completely different at that height and up,the legs are longer torsos etc it just looks better For example take a 5'8 guy and a 5'10 guy on the surface 2 inches isnt all that much different its not towering over soemobdy usually but the build and difference in torsos and legs the 5'10 guy looks like he towers over a 5'8 guy where if you take a 5'10 guy and 6 foot guy it looks like what it is only 2 inches Edited October 13, 2010 by Sweetie1977
donnamaybe Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I BETTER never hear any of these women bytch when their man talks about how fat their butt looks in those jeans.
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