TouchedByViolet Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 What I find most strange about a women's attraction to tall guys is that most short guys initially don't realize height is a major issue. Short guys are relatively confident and happy in their own body and would expect women to like them as well... Then these guys suffer the repetative rejection of most women which completely sucks and is out of their control. I am 5'8" which has limited the number of women attracted to me but I have a guy friend who is 5'5" who's struggle is much worse. Meeting women and dating is damn near impossible for him. The world is unfair.
sanskrit Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Women (generally speaking) like to feel protected and they don't feel as protected by someone who is shorter than themselves. We hear this everywhere, yet there are some problems with that, in that many woman will choose a "less fit" "less strong" man based on height alone over a shorter more fit, strong man. Several of my taller friends are goofy as all get out compared to other shorter friends, not inspiring of a "protected feeling" at all in comparison, yet they are never without female attention. I think there's something more to it than merely "feeling protected," something in the same vein of certain men seeking "trophy" wives. Height preferences in women may be the equivalent "trophy" instinct.
Pyro Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I ain't gonna lie, when I was rejected solely based on my height, it hurted like hell. It just made me feel like I didn't have what it took to be worthy. The more that I look at things, tho, the more I'm glad I've changed my mindset regarding my height difficulties. I had a girl pull me from my chair at a bar one night because she wanted to dance and then when she saw me on the dance floor shorter than her she just stopped and walked away. I found it hysterical. Never let anyone think you aren't worthy of being something or getting someone. Glad you did change your mindset as well. No one is talking about guys shorter than the girl. Most women want the guy to be at least 6in taller than her minimum. I dont have enough time in the day to count how many dating profiles I've seen where the woman states " I like taller guys, at least 6 in taller than myself, I like to wear heels" And in the bizarro town I live in, the shorter the girl, the taller the guy needs to be. This same mindset applies to guys who want a girl who is a certain weight.
Pyro Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 We hear this everywhere, yet there are some problems with that, in that many woman will choose a "less fit" "less strong" man based on height alone over a shorter more fit, strong man. Several of my taller friends are goofy as all get out compared to other shorter friends, not inspiring of a "protected feeling" at all in comparison, yet they are never without female attention. I think there's something more to it than merely "feeling protected," something in the same vein of certain men seeking "trophy" wives. Height preferences in women may be the equivalent "trophy" instinct. then don't give those type of women the time of day, simple as that. Plenty of women to chose from who don't hold height to such high value.
sanskrit Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Plenty of women to chose from who don't hold height to such high value. Not according to the article OP cited. They would consider the shorter men... if the taller men were child molesters.
Mad Max Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I've seen plenty of short guys with girlfriends and wives. I know a guy that's 5'4", is jacked like a mother f*cker and has never had problems with women.
Pyro Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Not according to the article OP cited. They would consider the shorter men... if the taller men were child molesters. you really want to be involved with any female who thinks like that?
TouchedByViolet Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 So what is tall? I did not see that defined. What is short? Here is my ranking for heights... I was thinking about making a graph but I need more practice with paint... <5 ft : Some women may wonder how sex with a midget or dwarf would be like. Nature has given you the gift to satisfy their curiosity. 5ft - 5'3" : Life %^&*ing sucks, pour me a drink. 5'4"-5'5" : Life sucks 5'6"-5'7" : Officially short. Not looking good but maybe someone will find your height attractive 5'8" - 5'9 : Barely dodged that bullet. Very Borderline. Most women think a man's height here is just "ok", and some are totally turned off. 5'10" - 5'11" : Desirable. This range will be attracting to many woman. 6ft - 6'2" : Ideal. Women will find this range highly attractive. 6'3" - 6'6" : Better taller than shorter. Many women will find this height attractive but some will think you are too tall. 6'7"+ : A mixed bag here but I'm sure some women will wonder if your height is any indication to what is in your pants. People of this height have a lower life expectancy.
Mad Max Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Here is my ranking for heights... I was thinking about making a graph but I need more practice with paint... <5 ft : Some women may wonder how sex with a midget or dwarf would be like. Nature has given you the gift to satisfy their curiosity. 5ft - 5'3" : Life %^&*ing sucks, pour me a drink. 5'4"-5'5" : Life sucks 5'6"-5'7" : Officially short. Not looking good but maybe someone will find your height attractive 5'8" - 5'9 : Barely dodged that bullet. Very Borderline. Most women think a man's height here is just "ok", and some are totally turned off. 5'10" - 5'11" : Desirable. This range will be attracting to many woman. 6ft - 6'2" : Ideal. Women will find this range highly attractive. 6'3" - 6'6" : Better taller than shorter. Many women will find this height attractive but some will think you are too tall. 6'7"+ : A mixed bag here but I'm sure some women will wonder if your height is any indication to what is in your pants. People of this height have a lower life expectancy. As a guy, once you're over 6'2", it's really a pain. Finding clothes is a b*tch. I'm 6'1" and for me, finding clothes(especially pants) is rough because I have very long legs and a small waist. My dad is 6'3" and has the same problem.
sanskrit Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 you really want to be involved with any female who thinks like that? Personally, the thread topic isn't an issue for me. But stating that there are "plenty" of women who don't select based on height is not much consolation for men who have been rejected over and over merely because of height.
donnamaybe Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 My guy is only a couple inches taller than I am, and I'm NOT tall by any stretch of the imagination, even for a woman. Guys who blame their height for their lack of female attention are missing something else. They just want to find something beyond their control to blame it on.
TheBigQuestion Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Here is my ranking for heights... I was thinking about making a graph but I need more practice with paint... 6ft - 6'2" : Ideal. Women will find this range highly attractive. . Hell to the yeah. I honestly wouldn't want to be much taller than 6'0", which I thankfully am. Anything above 6'3" has a lot of downsides.
TheBigQuestion Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Personally, the thread topic isn't an issue for me. But stating that there are "plenty" of women who don't select based on height is not much consolation for men who have been rejected over and over merely because of height. Everyone has shortcomings, whether they be physical or personal. I'd love to be totally ripped, and I'm working on it, but I'm not. If I woke up tomorrow with an 8 inch ween, I probably wouldn't complain either. I'd love to be way more confident than I am, and I'm working on it, but I'm not where I want to be. The whole point of dating can easily relate to that old cliche/prayer: you need to know what needs to be changed, what can't be changed, and you need to have the wisdom to know the difference. In other words, almost no one is dealt a perfect hand in terms of dating attributes. A person CAN rather easily make up for a lack of height with other factors that will make them attractive to women. I've seen it more than enough times.
donnamaybe Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Everyone has shortcomings, whether they be physical or personal. I'd love to be totally ripped, and I'm working on it, but I'm not. If I woke up tomorrow with an 8 inch ween, I probably wouldn't complain either. I'd love to be way more confident than I am, and I'm working on it, but I'm not where I want to be. The whole point of dating can easily relate to that old cliche/prayer: you need to know what needs to be changed, what can't be changed, and you need to have the wisdom to know the difference. In other words, almost no one is dealt a perfect hand in terms of dating attributes. A person CAN rather easily make up for a lack of height with other factors that will make them attractive to women. I've seen it more than enough times. Yes, a great attitude here! There are things YOU have ID'd that YOU want to work on, so you do instead of just whining about something you can't do anything about anyway.
sanskrit Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 A person CAN rather easily make up for a lack of height with other factors that will make them attractive to women. I've seen it more than enough times. No argument at all with this. But I still think men who are affected by this issue have a right to vent about it without being served up the standard platitudes. People certainly vent here about sillier things without being told, subtly or otherwise, to suck it up and stop whining.
AD1980 Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 It doesn't puzzle me because I get it. It doesn't bother me because I know that there are plenty of women out there. Women (generally speaking) like to feel protected and they don't feel as protected by someone who is shorter than themselves. Which if thats the only prequesite i totally get it but women are talking tall Men in general and are comparing Mens height to other Men not themslves
TheBigQuestion Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 No argument at all with this. But I still think men who are affected by this issue have a right to vent about it without being served up the standard platitudes. People certainly vent here about sillier things without being told, subtly or otherwise, to suck it up and stop whining. I get that too, but this issue has been talked about to death on this board for years now. No matter what happens, the posters who have continuously whined about their lack of height have never done anything constructive to work past it. One thing I will say is that the OP is a tool for starting this thread, as all he's really doing is rubbing it in to all the short guys. If anything, people should be criticizing him for the somewhat insulting nature of this thread rather than criticizing women for having height preferences in the first place.
EricaH329 Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I get that too, but this issue has been talked about to death on this board for years now. No matter what happens, the posters who have continuously whined about their lack of height have never done anything constructive to work past it. One thing I will say is that the OP is a tool for starting this thread, as all he's really doing is rubbing it in to all the short guys. If anything, people should be criticizing him for the somewhat insulting nature of this thread rather than criticizing women for having height preferences in the first place. For the win!
AD1980 Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 No argument at all with this. But I still think men who are affected by this issue have a right to vent about it without being served up the standard platitudes. People certainly vent here about sillier things without being told, subtly or otherwise, to suck it up and stop whining. Because not only are you not Man enough if your short but your also never allowed to ponder about problems in your dating life and ask "why" or youre a whiner Females are allowed to vent and cry about the most trivial things yet if a Man shows any insecurity or questions why something is in the dating world hes immediately laughed off and called less of a Man I get that it shouldnt consume you but you shouldnt be chastised for questioning it and wodnering why As a short guy its frustrating not only havign a small pool of women to pick from because im not another inch off the ground but getting overanalzyed for every little action If were timid were gonna get picked on,if we show any anger or if one of us just happens to be an ahole its not that inidividual short guy its the "napoleon complex" Nobody seems as scrutinized and looked upon as inferior then us
Jannah Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Are you serious? Do you really think people are that stupid? What does that pic prove? maybe she standing on steps or a curb. 1 picture that doesnt show the whole story is supposed to break down the whole system ? Wow LOL Don't be rudee.
sanskrit Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I get that too, but this issue has been talked about to death on this board for years now. As have many issues. And they will be reposted again and again, sure as rain, a "fat girl/superficial men" thread will hatch soon, or a "penis" thread of some variety. Nothing really all that new under the sun in dating land. If I see a thread on a topic I find tiresome, a fifteen pager on some nutjob's latest sexual mistake for example, I do something about it. I -avoid- it, don't -read- it, certainly don't keep bumping it. I don't find these threads tiresome, though, because personally, I feel height preference is an expression of mere vanity in many women in at least part, not any kind of true attraction, and like to call them out on it. IMO, most women prefer tall men in the same way that they prefer a certain brand of shoes or makeup.
PJKino Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I think my bewilderemnt is not just the universal thought that short guys arent attractive even if hes a half a foot taller then said girl but there seems to be disdain almost for short guys from women i dont understand.. I dont know how many dating sites when asked about height women call Short Men children and talk about how there less masculine and how even with breasts and a vagina small Men somehow make thme not feel like a woman.. There seems to be a condescending attitude towards short Men from women who dont find us attractive which is what i dont get.. I get why some tall guys are arrogant and overconfident..Its like gold to women..
PJKino Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 (edited) As have many issues. And they will be reposted again and again, sure as rain, a "fat girl/superficial men" thread will hatch soon, or a "penis" thread of some variety. Nothing really all that new under the sun in dating land. If I see a thread on a topic I find tiresome, a fifteen pager on some nutjob's latest sexual mistake for example, I do something about it. I -avoid- it, don't -read- it, certainly don't keep bumping it. I don't find these threads tiresome, though, because personally, I feel height preference is an expression of mere vanity in many women in at least part, not any kind of true attraction, and like to call them out on it. IMO, most women prefer tall men in the same way that they prefer a certain brand of shoes or makeup. It is kidna hard to take some women seriously when they wouldnt give a great guy a chance because there slightly taller or the same height in 4 or 5 inch heels which ive heard on here more then a few times.. The whole i only feel feminine if the guy towers over me like a father to a small child puzzles me.. I know guys can be shallow but some stuff women pull takes the cake.. Are women looking for love or an accesory to look good in contrast to? Edited October 6, 2010 by PJKino
donnamaybe Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Because not only are you not Man enough if your short but your also never allowed to ponder about problems in your dating life and ask "why" or youre a whinerNope. You got it wrong. Peruse some of these threads. You'll see all KINDS of women saying, "Nope. Height doesn't matter at all." And then the guys will come back with, "Yeah, right. I don't believe you for a second. You're just saying that. It's been proven time and time again because I'm not tall and I can't get a date." Granted, there are a few gals on LS who actually say they prefer taller men, but so what? These threads are purporting that women like ONLY tall men, and that's just not true, and no matter how many of us try to tell these guys we don't care how tall men are, they just WILL NOT HEAR IT.
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