fabio10 Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 Im in NC over 3weeks I guess if not more the longest we have ever gone without talking in 4years, yesterday my NC defences were being tested 3missed calls one very early in the morning, when I didnt answer then my facebook was tested she posted on my wall 'when did you become a stranger?' I have stood firm...pat on the back for me Its her birthday so I guess she was contacting me to see if I'd mention it, and also its a year this weekend since we got together so the memories must be getting her. Either way Im NC still and I intend to stay this way, I love her I truely do bear no grudge whatsoever but we cannot work for the foreseeable future in my eyes maybe a year or two down the line but not now and Im not ready to be friends. I wonder was she testing the water or testing to see if she still has a hold on me. I know the advice is to block her from facebook but I dont check her page and have'nt in months so I dont mind not blocking her plus there has been alot of ladies posting on my page lately maybe she was reaching out to check if Im moving on. Your thoughts ?
DustySaltus Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 I think you've come a long way. Continue to stay in NC and remember it's a tool to help you heal, not to get them back or to try and "torture" them. The opposite of love is indifference. It's a weird place to be, but it's a safe place to be. At this point I would block her to train your mind to look past this and understand that this relationship is now in the past. What do you think the next step is for yourself?
Author fabio10 Posted October 6, 2010 Author Posted October 6, 2010 Thank you Dusty I would'nt be where I am right now without all of you here on LS , I remember the first thread I wrote and you and Don Ho trying to get through to my stubborn head . Yes I realise NC is to heal and it is working I have to say a month ago if she contacted me I would have found it very hard to stay strong but I did. I have blocked her updates on facebook so really facebook dose'nt bother me at all. Im not doing this NC to torture her, Im doing it for me, knowing her she will leave me be I'd say for another few weeks and launch another attempt. The last time we spoke I as good as told her I was trying to forget her and I was finding it hard so she left me alone for all of 3weeks and abit till yesterday.....
Author fabio10 Posted October 11, 2010 Author Posted October 11, 2010 Again today 4missed calls, I have resisted all her attempts this is the most she has tried, and I am starting to feel the balance of power is starting to turn in my favour, I love her I really do and I want her to be happy but we will not work at the moment she needs to be free and be single and I need to heal !
PSG Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 You should be so proud of yourself!!!! My breakup isn't even a week old and the whole NC thing hasn't been tested yet. Not sure what I would do if he called/emailed. Keep up the good work.
Author fabio10 Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 Thank you Im sorry to hear what you are going through, but when I was at your stage we would not go 2hours NC let alone days so be proud of yourself too, I made some terrible mistakes but now Im getting stronger I still think off her alot but I cant be demoted to a friend it just isnt enough for me at this moment I have enough friends
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