bad decisions, confession, now what?

[girlie908]

so i need some advice for some things i'm not proud of. even i can't believe i still pull of these antics.

 

anyway...

 

back in june, i was back home from med school. my ex lives in my home town and we hung out for 3 months while i was on a break, doing coupley things, etc...however, we have a very tainted history, with lots of fights, jealousy, etc..that i dont want to get into, and we are not together for many of those reasons, but i sometimes still can't help but get jealous.

 

so one night there was a party at my house celebrating my departure since i was going back to school across the country. i see my ex, texting all night, and i kinda get a little peeved. i knew he was texting this girl that he used to talk to behind my back when we were together, and even tho i asked him to just chat w/ me since we were in the same company at a party, he continued texting away. eventually he got drunk, and i had a little too much myself. he ends up passing out. and i do a bad thing. i pick up his phone and confirm its the girl. i get angry. then out of sheer stupidity and drunkenness, i text the girl, saying (as if from him) that i only talk to her when i'm lonely. then i go to sleep.

 

the next morning, she sends a txt saying how she "sees how it is" and seems a little upset. me, actually thinking coherently tries to send a txt from his phone while he's still asleep apologizing for it, saying it was drunkenness (still as him). she doesn't respond, and i delete all the messages.

 

me and my ex leave on good terms, we are friends. however we don't talk at all since i have left for school. i did send him one email 2 months ago when my grandmother died, but he never responded. today i check my inbox and its an email from him that says

 

"did you send *** *** texts from my phone when you were here?"

 

shoot. i want to be friends w/ him. but i don't know if i should fess up, whether he knows the truth, or if i should just not respond, or play it off. this was bad, and i feel really bad about it, but i have no idea where to go from here.

 

any responses would be helpful.

[Rashad]

You can only clean up this mess by telling the other girl that it was you who texted her, and apologize to both of them.

[PegNosePete]

You can only clean up this mess by telling the other girl that it was you who texted her, and apologize to both of them.

Yep agreed.

 

And then you have to re-evaluate your friendship with this guy. If you have feelings for him that make a friendship difficult, then you can't be "just friends".