FanFan Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 I will tell him to shove it, it is so ridiculous. You all think he wants to start this whole thing over when it wil only have the same outcome? Is he really that desperate for free sex. Well, it's free and cheap sex. Why not. He paid for them from the others, didn't he?
Author forbidden fruit Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 He's f*kcing with you. Remember, this is the man who LOVES when you react. He's pushing your buttons. Why else would he tell you that stuff? Tell him to shove it up his ass and to leave you alone. He isn't interested in friendship, you do know this right? As for the kids, try to keep them busy. School activities, other kids to play with after school, enroll them in swimming or karate somewhere else other than on school property. Well, it's free and cheap sex. Why not. He paid for them from the others, didn't he? I am gettinng sick thinking about. Boy did I get played
Fieldsofgold Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 He didn't want to hurt anyone? WOW really, then why was he f*cking around on his wife? That wasn't gonna hurt anyone? Oh, the poor confused little saint, was being corrupted by the evil b*tch aaawww, a tear in his eye? You should have kicked him in the nuts, then he'll really have somethin to cry about I like the way you think!
Author forbidden fruit Posted October 8, 2010 Author Posted October 8, 2010 He's f*kcing with you. Remember, this is the man who LOVES when you react. He's pushing your buttons. Why else would he tell you that stuff? Tell him to shove it up his ass and to leave you alone. He isn't interested in friendship, you do know this right? As for the kids, try to keep them busy. School activities, other kids to play with after school, enroll them in swimming or karate somewhere else other than on school property. Well I want to end it with a doozy. If he thinks he is saint and I am evil bt** I want him to know how evil I can be. Any suggestions on some parting words he will never forget!!
bentnotbroken Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Well I want to end it with a doozy. If he thinks he is saint and I am evil bt** I want him to know how evil I can be. Any suggestions on some parting words he will never forget!! NOTone word. Walk away and stop participating in this farce that neither spouse is aware is still going on.
Owl Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I've got a suggestion on those parting words...but they shouldn't be with him... They should be to your husband and his wife instead. That's the best way I can see to end this and see him get what he deserves.
whichwayisup Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Don't stoop to his level. He IS waiting for you to react because you've always reacted in the past. Silence is the key here and the less you say, the better. By being silent, you take control and the game ends. If you react, he's going to react to your reaction and so on. Let it go.
TigerCub Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I also agree with the rest that tell you not to stoop to his level or communicate with him. If this guy just loves to push your buttons and see your reaction, the absolute best F U is if you just ignore him and show him that he can't get to you in any way. If, however, he insists on trying to talk to you just say "You know, I don't have time for this, I have kids, and parenting to do, and you have prostitutes and happy endings to get to you - so why don't you just go do that, and stop wasting my time" hehe, and then under your breath (just loud enough for him to hear you say something) say "pretty desperate when you gotta pay for it" and then yeah...leave it at that but only use the above quotes if he keeps trying to talk to you - and your delivery can't be mad, just more of a "you're a loser" kinda tone.
Owl Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I've gotta respectfully disagree. I think the best possible F U would be: "Oh, thought you should know. I recorded our entire last conversation and sent a copy of it to your wife. I made sure she wouldn't be surprised about what's gone on between us, and what you're doing now. I've also let my husband know, and I'm working to rebuild my marriage now...although your wife didn't give any indication that this was likely in your case. Good luck...and if you ever come near me again, expect a restraining order!"
Author forbidden fruit Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 I've gotta respectfully disagree. I think the best possible F U would be: "Oh, thought you should know. I recorded our entire last conversation and sent a copy of it to your wife. I made sure she wouldn't be surprised about what's gone on between us, and what you're doing now. I've also let my husband know, and I'm working to rebuild my marriage now...although your wife didn't give any indication that this was likely in your case. Good luck...and if you ever come near me again, expect a restraining order!" I have to get a couple of things off my chest. Since I last posted right after xmm saw each other I got a text from his wife saying hi and let's get kids together. Coincidence or not? Then I run into her at a event and she is as nice as pie to me. I know for me it is very hard for me to see her and I am overcome with guilt. The rest of the day I feel sick and very upset with myself. The other thing that just hit me is I think mm made contact with me to see if I still was in love with him. After wanting to be friendswith me he has now gone out of his way to not see me (which is great by me) but I think his huge huge huge ego thinks I still want him and he is avoiding me to let me know I can't have him. Not that I care one iota, but it just hit me and I think it is hilarious. What a putz. Instead of putting on the full court press like you all thought. Him coming up to me was just a test to see if I still wanted him so he could say he ended it on his terms. Arrivederchi xmm
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 He may be encouraging his wife to contact you. I'd make polite excuses and avoid them both. He's playing puppeteer with you all and it is a sick game.
GreenEyedLady Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I have to get a couple of things off my chest. Since I last posted right after xmm saw each other I got a text from his wife saying hi and let's get kids together. Coincidence or not? Then I run into her at a event and she is as nice as pie to me. I know for me it is very hard for me to see her and I am overcome with guilt. The rest of the day I feel sick and very upset with myself. The other thing that just hit me is I think mm made contact with me to see if I still was in love with him. After wanting to be friendswith me he has now gone out of his way to not see me (which is great by me) but I think his huge huge huge ego thinks I still want him and he is avoiding me to let me know I can't have him. Not that I care one iota, but it just hit me and I think it is hilarious. What a putz. Instead of putting on the full court press like you all thought. Him coming up to me was just a test to see if I still wanted him so he could say he ended it on his terms. Arrivederchi xmm Stop analyzing him. You'll know you're over him when you DON'T CARE. What he says or what he does will mean NOTHING to you. You've put so much time in thinking about this guy, and he knows it. Ignore him and don't socialize with his W or your kids with his kids. GEL
Fieldsofgold Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Stop analyzing him. You'll know you're over him when you DON'T CARE. What he says or what he does will mean NOTHING to you. You've put so much time in thinking about this guy, and he knows it. Ignore him and don't socialize with his W or your kids with his kids. GEL Exactly. Put that emotional energy into your H and kids, your job, your REAL friends - whoever and whatever is really important to you. I also agree that ignoring him if he approaches you is best. Guys like him can't stand to be ignored. If he tries more agressive approaches, tell him you'll be happy to discuss it with his wife. IF HE is ignoring you - even if he's doing it to play a game with you - be glad. And get hour focus back on what really matters in YOUR life. Good luck.
bentnotbroken Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Stop analyzing him. You'll know you're over him when you DON'T CARE. What he says or what he does will mean NOTHING to you. You've put so much time in thinking about this guy, and he knows it. Ignore him and don't socialize with his W or your kids with his kids. GEL Exactly! She wants this person in her life. She feeds off the attention and the "wonder" of what he is doing, what he is thinking, what's his next move. End once and for all. Or admit you like where you are and stop wasting your time with the protests.
TurboGirl Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 FF, Been there, done that & got a t-shirt... he's trying to wiggle his way back in for some horizontal time with you. He comes back to "be friends" with you, and thus the drama continues. Do you still want this drama in your life? Had enough yet of the lies & promises that never come to be? Please do yourself a favor and put him on the NC list. Close the chapter & move on.
Author forbidden fruit Posted October 21, 2010 Author Posted October 21, 2010 FF, Been there, done that & got a t-shirt... he's trying to wiggle his way back in for some horizontal time with you. He comes back to "be friends" with you, and thus the drama continues. Do you still want this drama in your life? Had enough yet of the lies & promises that never come to be? Please do yourself a favor and put him on the NC list. Close the chapter & move on. Two days ago I was at the park with my youngest waiting for my kids to get out of school and when I looked over at my car xmm was parked next to me and I could see him staring my way. Very weird, I thought it was odd but there was no way in hell I was going to go over there like I had done in the past. I think he is waiting for me to make the first move, but no way that is going to happen. I feel like I am his prey and he is predator- not a good feeling...
Patrice Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 That's what they do ... he needs his ego stroked again at your expense. Stay away from him and his wife.
Owl Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Two days ago I was at the park with my youngest waiting for my kids to get out of school and when I looked over at my car xmm was parked next to me and I could see him staring my way. Very weird, I thought it was odd but there was no way in hell I was going to go over there like I had done in the past. I think he is waiting for me to make the first move, but no way that is going to happen. I feel like I am his prey and he is predator- not a good feeling... FF...once again...DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!! How can you expect this situation to change if YOU don't force the change?!?!?!?! If you don't force a change...you're basically accepting his behavior and letting this continue. You've never understood why I've insisted you should tell your H...what I don't understand is why/how you would think that this will stop if you don't??? Is it that you're so afraid of what your husband might do (leave you, beat OM, whatever) when he finds out? What is it that is stopping you from actually doing anything here?????
Author forbidden fruit Posted October 22, 2010 Author Posted October 22, 2010 FF...once again...DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!! How can you expect this situation to change if YOU don't force the change?!?!?!?! If you don't force a change...you're basically accepting his behavior and letting this continue. You've never understood why I've insisted you should tell your H...what I don't understand is why/how you would think that this will stop if you don't??? Is it that you're so afraid of what your husband might do (leave you, beat OM, whatever) when he finds out? What is it that is stopping you from actually doing anything here????? Well now it is getting weird. Yesterday when I pulled out his car was running and he was stopped on the street next to mine. Concidence-maybe? If he comes near me I am going to tell him to f-off. I have had it with his weird behavior!!
spice4life Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 My kids are 9 and 12. I think you are exactly right. Another disgusting thing mm said. He told me he has been going to some sort of place to get a happy ending because he figures while everyone is having affairs it is easier to pay for it. I all know what u are going to say about this. Yesterday after talking he showed up school and said two times in one day and then jokingly flipped me off. WTF? Yuck!! This sounds like one sick f@#%! What a creep! He doesn't even deserve a kick in the b@lls from you because that too would stroke his sick ego. Honestly, the only thing you do completely ignore the idiot. Ewwww! Don't let this this jerk know that he is getting under your skin. If he comes around don't look at him and get up and walk away. Geezz...just when I think I've heard and read it all. Boggles my mind.
Owl Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Well now it is getting weird. Yesterday when I pulled out his car was running and he was stopped on the street next to mine. Concidence-maybe? If he comes near me I am going to tell him to f-off. I have had it with his weird behavior!! FF...has telling him anything done any good so far?
whichwayisup Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Well now it is getting weird. Yesterday when I pulled out his car was running and he was stopped on the street next to mine. Concidence-maybe? If he comes near me I am going to tell him to f-off. I have had it with his weird behavior!! Look, he knows how to push your buttons, he knows the game very well and he knows you react to him. I wish you completely ignored him weeks ago and didn't talk to him at all. As of now, IGNORE HIM. Even telling him to fuvck off is something for him. SILENCE is the key here. Stop thinking about him, stop wondering what and why he's doing what he's doing. It doesn't matter.
Author forbidden fruit Posted November 2, 2010 Author Posted November 2, 2010 Look, he knows how to push your buttons, he knows the game very well and he knows you react to him. I wish you completely ignored him weeks ago and didn't talk to him at all. As of now, IGNORE HIM. Even telling him to fuvck off is something for him. SILENCE is the key here. Stop thinking about him, stop wondering what and why he's doing what he's doing. It doesn't matter. It has been a couple of weeks and I have had to go out of my way to not run into him because he is friggin everywhere... the store , the bank, the library,etc etc... And yesterday family and I were at a party and guess who shows up trick or treating with kids. Everyone is being nice to him and I see him, smile at his kids and walk away.. I am so friggin tired to seeing him everywhere and looking as happy as a clam. I think moving is the only option because this friggin town is not big enough for he both of us!!
bentnotbroken Posted November 2, 2010 Posted November 2, 2010 It has been a couple of weeks and I have had to go out of my way to not run into him because he is friggin everywhere... the store , the bank, the library,etc etc... And yesterday family and I were at a party and guess who shows up trick or treating with kids. Everyone is being nice to him and I see him, smile at his kids and walk away.. I am so friggin tired to seeing him everywhere and looking as happy as a clam. I think moving is the only option because this friggin town is not big enough for he both of us!! I think the bolded says just how over him you really are. Moving is what was suggested to you for years.
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