Will best friends back stab each other over a member of the opp. sex?

[Gigz3050]

So there is this guy that I have known for 5 years and he and I have always had an attraction to one another. He ended up moving away after graduating from the same college that I was at. He came for a visit not too long ago and we ended up hooking up and he said he was attracted to me and that I had matured and all of this stuff (like good stuff).

 

I was going to go out and visit him. The thing is, I worked with his best friend this summer and his friend kept contacting me all of the time. We eventually made plans to hang out (and more than just hanging out). Then I started to pull back after I realized that this wasn't what I wanted (I mean I hooked up with his best friend, the guy that moved away...it was just kinda weird for me).

 

So I cancelled on hanging out and he flipped out on me hardcore about it (my assumption is that he had a huge crush on me, but the thing is...he was acting kinda desperate). Then he told me that his friend that moved away had said some stuff behind my back. The guy that moved away told his friend that I was not a very good person and that I was immature etc. when he was singing the opposite tune months earlier. I'm not sure why he would be saying things because I never did anything to him to hurt him or directly attack him personally. I always tried to be a friend to him.

 

Some people have told me that he sounded jealous or that maybe his friend made those things up to get to me. Because after his friend flipped out, he then said he wanted to continue to talk to me and didn't wanna lose me (sign of desperation because he barely knows me). Do people backstab their friends to get to a member of the opp. sex or what do you think?

[Tony T]

People back stab for a lot of reasons, mostly immaturity and jealousy. I would gain some power for yourself and totally avoid both of these guys and go find someone who is a bit more grown up emotionally. Life is way too short for dramas. The networks have all but canceled the soap operas.

[Kinder-Horror]

Well in short - the answer to your question is ABSOLUTELY.

It's unfortunate that it happens, but I have heard of multiple occasions where someone's best friend will sleep with their bf/gf/husband/wife.

 

It happens all the time.

You need to avoid both of them unless you really want to be caught up in what will be a lot of drama and storytelling

[Dexter Morgan]

not only did I not give in to a friend's gf's advances, I told him what she did.

 

not only would I not do that to a friend, what the hell would I want with the skank if she would cheat on a friend and then think that somehow I'm the type of slug that would eff a friend over?

[Kinder-Horror]

not only did I not give in to a friend's gf's advances, I told him what she did.

 

not only would I not do that to a friend, what the hell would I want with the skank if she would cheat on a friend and then think that somehow I'm the type of slug that would eff a friend over?

 

I totally agree with you.

(and your response to her advances)

I would only pray that my friends would do the same as I would for them

Unfortunately - and I may be a pessimist - but I think there are WAY too many people who do stab their friends in the back over silly flings

[aerogurl87]

not only did I not give in to a friend's gf's advances, I told him what she did.

 

not only would I not do that to a friend, what the hell would I want with the skank if she would cheat on a friend and then think that somehow I'm the type of slug that would eff a friend over?

 

I agree. When my ex best friend's old crush started hitting on me and trying to hook up with me, I didn't even entertain the thought of getting with him. Instead I told her what he had done and said and avoided him. I would have hoped she'd do the same but after flirting with my ex after him and I broke up and talking about me behind my back to him, I found she couldn't be trusted. Hence why she is my ex best friend.