HopeLove Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 My ex and I broke up 5 months ago (he dumped me) and we don't have contact. That reason for the slip was that although he loved me he couldn't see a future together. Some people told me, among then a friend of him, something like that at some point he will regret his decision. Now my question, have you ever regret breaking up with someone and if you have did you ever try to get them back?
USMCHokie Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I'm just a single data point, but for every relationship that I ended, I never regretted it and never looked back...
Ajax Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I also have never regretted breaking up with someone. Granted, I never made a split decision about it. I've never left someone I was in love with.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 By giving your story then following up with this question and given your username you are asking us to validate your hope. Hope is the humans mind to reason with itself. Trust me I haven't lost hope myself but asking for others to validate it will only make matters worse. Especially on a forum that I'd going to tell you to move on etc. I wish you luck but wishing is just the same as hope it's something I can not give you.
yessy21 Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 i only regreted it once. and i ended up regretting it years ago when i realized he wasnt that bad. and that i did it because my friends were all single and having fun. but thats just because i saw him years later and was like damn. that could have worked.
Fouts Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 When men move on, it's usually forever. Not sure if it's the same for women.
pandagirl Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 The thing is, even if he regrets it, it doesn't necessarily mean he will come back to you. I know a lot of people who hold a flame for former loves, but they still all have current boyfriends or girlfriends. The impetus to get back with someone has to be REALLY strong for it to happen.
durkadurka Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Men are funny, we really don't break up with people unless there's something VERY serious we see not working. When we see something we like we really latch onto things. To answer your question, once. That's it. Only because time gave me the perspective and maturity needed to figure out that it could have worked.
tornandmarried Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 im sure you will cross his mind from time to time throughout the rest of his life...but wanting someone back or regretting it is a whole different story...and just because he feels that way doesnt mean he will act on it
USMCHokie Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 The impetus to get back with someone has to be REALLY strong for it to happen. OR... The guy is desperate for companionship and will return to the past... OR... The guy just wants to get laid right quick...
jerbear Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I have never went back to an ex. Now for a quick lay maybe but she won't be a GF.
carhill Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Now my question, have you ever regret breaking up with someone and if you have did you ever try to get them back? Nope and that goes for friendships too, including disconnecting family members, however, I've never said this either: although he loved me he couldn't see a future together.What does that mean, anyway? Clues?
Author HopeLove Posted October 6, 2010 Author Posted October 6, 2010 The reason why he said he couldn't see a future is that he doesn't know wether he wants to have kids or not. He's sure he doesn't want them now but maybe in 7 years when it would be too late for me. He also said he doesn't want to settle down and at the end he even said he didn't want to be in a relationship. Yet he said he still loves me and never loved anyone as much as he loved me, that thinks about me every day, etc. IMO he's not coming back and probably is better so. I just wonder if he would ever regret his decision, which he said was the most difficult of his live.
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