reknown29 Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 SO my gf broke up with me. She says its mainly because she I battle with mild chronic depression... Im a bit on the darker side at times. I can understand this as our personalities also clashed at times, etc. but what is really bothering me is how cruel and hateful she has been. Suddenly she is saying I was the worst thing that ever happened to her. That I should never get into another relationship again because Im only going to hurt the other person. This is coming from someone who consistently gave me complimetns everyday, all day long telling me how great I am. I really did love this girl and I am deeply hurt by her consistent heart stabbing remarks. I did stick up for myself once a week ago and now it has gotten even worse... There was initially NC for about a week. Now we are talking and actually slept together recently. She tried to meet up again but I turned her down. I do want her back, I know its complicated, but I feel like an apology is necessary before I go further. I never dealt with a breakup like this before. Im in my 30s and used to it being a more mature departure. Is there something I am missing here. As anyone else experienced this kind of sudden hatred after getting their hearts broken. I feel like I am being beaten when I am down. Maybe she wants to make sure it is over? Im confused. Any input is appreciated.
Trovador Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 It´s called shock therapy... sometimes we need a jolt in order to grasp the reality and finality of this kind of decision... Maybe if you wait a little, she will apologize to you, mostly for her cruelty, not for breaking up, as it was my case... I don't get it, though... you guys slept together... in my ex's book (and also in mine) breaking up is kaputt, finish, the end, nada... And in a light vein, let me tell you that many of us could dispense with an apology...
Author reknown29 Posted October 5, 2010 Author Posted October 5, 2010 so she is doing this to get it into my head that its over? it probably persists because we slept together so now she has to make it even extra sure... she contacted me and wanted to come over a few nights ago. its becoming apparent that she is having a hard time letting go even though her emotions are probably not there for me. its very hard to excpet that someone who you love doesnt want anything to do with you anymore. it makes sense though, if i look back and see my own issues of self esteem that i was dealing with during our relationship. if only she was able to see through this. the world just doesnt seem to give second chances anymore. everyone is moving on. the strong bonds that existed in previous generations just dont exist like they used to. especially with so many people having divorced parents. i think a lot of us have to stop beating ourselves up over breakups and realize it has a lot to do with our times. especially if your a city dweller.
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