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This Wednesday I have a date that I've been really looking forward to. However, I've just tonight started to get warning signs of a sore throat. With any luck it'll be gone as quickly as it came, or it will at least be manageable by Wednesday. I'm just crossing my fingers... :(

 

I'm very busy this week (with a friend coming in to stay with me starting Thursday), and it's a special event we're going to -- so I can't exactly reschedule. And anyway the timing of this date, too, seems a bit crucial. Our pace has been a little slow for my comfort. I don't know that we could recover if this date doesn't go well. Of course, I really want to be affectionate with her, and make an effort to make this a wonderful time.

 

So, here are my options:

 

  1. Go to the date, tell her I have a sore throat, cross my fingers and hope that she kisses me anyway.
  2. Go to the date, don't tell her I have a sore throat, and try to make the best of this opportunity that I am taking by essentially lying to her and harming her.
  3. Don't go to the date, because I have a sore throat. (It's an option, I guess.)

I'm sure she'd understand if I told her, but if she's not willing to make herself sick (also understandable), then she will be disappointed. No one's fault -- but I don't want to be associated with disappointment right now. Personally, I know that I've willingly not given a **** and kissed girls that were sick when I was into them, but I also know that I'm an idiot.

 

What do you think I should do?

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Just make sure to tell her you have a sore throat, and then let her decide.

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Just make sure to tell her you have a sore throat, and then let her decide.

 

Agreed. A sore throat wouldn't prevent me from a lil' smoochie smooch with a guy I was really into. ;)

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Agreed. A sore throat wouldn't prevent me from a lil' smoochie smooch with a guy girl I was really into. ;)

 

+1. Besides, I don't get sick... But if I do, that's just more immunities for me... :rolleyes:

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Agreed. A sore throat wouldn't prevent me from a lil' smoochie smooch with a guy I was really into. ;)

 

Yes, so make sure you do not have a sore throat when you visit the hokester...;)

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Honesty is the best policy. If she chooses to make out with you knowing full well that you have a sore throat, then so be it!

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take a vitamin c-tablet(actually everyone should take them)especially sore throat yea tell her about the throat you should be fine mate

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Yea, I agree, everyone can use a good case of strep throat now and then..

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Yes, so make sure you do not have a sore throat when you visit the hokester...;)

 

Even if I do, I doubt it will be a hurdle... ;)

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Even if I do, I doubt it will be a hurdle... ;)

 

Nope. Probably not.

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Even if I do, I doubt it will be a hurdle... ;)

 

Nope. Probably not.

 

Correct. Ain't nothin' gonna stop me... :love:

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Correct. Ain't nothin' gonna stop me... :love:

 

That's what I just said. :laugh:

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That's what I just said. :laugh:

 

Repeated for emphasis. :p:laugh:

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Repeated for emphasis. :p:laugh:

 

Okay Okay.

 

As long as you don't give her mono, it's all good.

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I know this probably isn't what's happening, but any time I see you two on, I always picture two people sitting next to each other with laptops, browsing LS together. :bunny:

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OK, so the consensus seems to be that I have nothing to worry about. Wonderful! Thanks everyone.

 

Also, seems like everyone in this thread believes in being an honest person. Who would have guessed :)

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I know this probably isn't what's happening, but any time I see you two on, I always picture two people sitting next to each other with laptops, browsing LS together. :bunny:

 

Hahahah, that would be too awesome. And we'd be IMing each other too. :laugh:

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OK, so the consensus seems to be that I have nothing to worry about. Wonderful! Thanks everyone.

 

Also, seems like everyone in this thread believes in being an honest person. Who would have guessed :)

 

Well some do, can't speak for anyone else.

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I have a story about this topic! :) I had a sore throat a week ago, and my guy-friend-turned-lover wanted to meet me to make out for a bit. We went together somewhere a bit private and when he seemed to be starting to approach me, I got nervous and quickly warned him about my sickness, saying, "I have a sore throat...." It didn't faze him, and he just went for it with gusto anyway. He didn't even care that he could get sick. It was just the sweetest and most romantic thing ever. I saw him a few days later... he told me he had a sore throat. Aww. =]

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OK, so the consensus seems to be that I have nothing to worry about. Wonderful! Thanks everyone.

 

Also, seems like everyone in this thread believes in being an honest person. Who would have guessed :)

 

A lot of people in this thread have said a little sore throat wouldn't stop them if they liked the guy. One personal note: I have let little colds etc. get in the way of a date or a kiss with people I was interested in several times, because I have a slightly weaker immune system and tend to catch everything and also suffer from it longer than most people, i.e. a mild sore throat/case of sniffles that inconveniences my husband for a day or two will often lay me out for a week or longer with much more severe symptoms. If you told me you had a sore throat, I might beg off the date, but it wouldn't mean I didn't want to see you or I didn't like you, it would just mean I couldn't afford to miss a week of work and was trying to be pragmatic about my needs, too. If I chose to go anyway, which I might do as you mentioned it was for a function and/or if I was afraid not going would leave negative impressions on you, there would almost definitely be minimal contact. Either way I would appreciate/respect your honestly. All I'm saying is, if she cancels or goes but keeps her distance, that's not a reliable gauge of lack of interest.

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I have a story about this topic! :) I had a sore throat a week ago, and my guy-friend-turned-lover wanted to meet me to make out for a bit. We went together somewhere a bit private and when he seemed to be starting to approach me, I got nervous and quickly warned him about my sickness, saying, "I have a sore throat...." It didn't faze him, and he just went for it with gusto anyway. He didn't even care that he could get sick. It was just the sweetest and most romantic thing ever. I saw him a few days later... he told me he had a sore throat. Aww. =]

 

Sigh. Your friend is not into you at all and is only using you for sex. I wish you would wake up and smell the coffee.

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Sigh. Your friend is not into you at all and is only using you for sex. I wish you would wake up and smell the coffee.

 

Sigh... look, I just wanted to share my cute story. I'm not as blind as everyone seems to think I am, and I know exactly what I'm getting into. I'm getting sick of getting nothing but negativity, as well-deserved as it might be for the situation, and I think I might stop posting updates and asking for opinions altogether regarding the guy. I'm well aware he isn't that into me. I've actually met someone else, and I may drop things with the other guy completely if the new guy shows promise relationship-wise. Until then, I'm going to enjoy the company. I admit that I am lonely right now, and he fulfills some important needs in me, so I think it's worth it. It will all work out just fine before too long. No worries. :) I'm also planning on cutting out the sex in our relationship. In the end, it's likely that the sore-throated guy and I will be just friends.

 

Let's not make this thread about me though. If you want to continue the discussion, let's move it to my thread. This thread's meant to be about the oh-so-pleasant sore throats. :D

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