deuces Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Ok, basically I broke up with my ex hastily because I caught her lying and sort of cheating on me (long story) but when my anger calmed down, I wanted to work things out. Then when I told her this, she changed her mind, and said she needed time and space because "she lost herself". Yes, I know what this sounds like, so please don't remind me of that she is with some other guy. Hurts bad enough. Throughout the relationship, she had so many faults such as cheating, lying, not communicating, not putting in enough effort, handling "our" financials poorly (she spent the $ instead of paying the bills) but over and over again, I stuck by her because I loved her, set my ego aside, and stuck by her side. I also cheated once because of the immense amount of pain she had put me thru (not an excuse I know) but I couldn't leave her but I wanted her to wake up too. I know she is feeling guilt and an overwhelming feeling of not knowing what or how to "fix it" but she said she still loves me and wants me but doesn't know how to ever gain my trust back. In the meantime, I am here broken picking up the pieces of my soul that she shattered. I want to work it out but yes, I don't know what it would take for her to "fix things" and gain my trust back. So, my question is, is it harder for the person who "messed up more" in the relationship to deal with the breakup or is it harder for the person who got hurt from all these things and basically got dumped too? I would love to hear from both sides of the issue!
skydiveaddict Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Well, you both cheated on each other, so it's probably the same hurt on both sides.
Author deuces Posted October 5, 2010 Author Posted October 5, 2010 Does it matter that she cheated numerous amounts of times however it was online? I caught her emailing her ex-bf saying she missed him and loved him, caught her having some other online bf, and chatting with numerous different guys I cheated once but it was physical, what is worse? and btw, we were long distance
skydiveaddict Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Yours was worse, since it was one on one sex. Long distance doesn't matter. You broke your trust with her by having relations with someone else
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