health Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I would like to be in a new healthy relationship, with a girl I love and that loves me equally. Someone I'm excited about. I just feel things could be going better than they currently are/ It's almost 2 years since my major break up of a 5 year relationship. I have been with 3 other girls since, but they have really just been flings. Dating, one I dated for 4 months. I want a long term relationship again. It kills me how my ex jumped into a relationship 3 days after ou break up as a bandage, and never got to feel the pain alone. I know that those people carry alot of baggage and when the rebound breaks so do they. What can I do to find a good girl? This is what I've been doing - going out socializing with friends and different friends every weekend - quit smoking - forgave my ex and wished her the best - let go of the past - I message girls on the internet - alot of times they don't reply, or read and delete the message with hurts - the rejection sucks!lol - I go out and look attractive - I don't talk to girls on the subway cause I've tried that and it really doesn't go anywhere - Clubs don't work for me either - I go to concerts I like I exercise, keep busy with my hobby read etc to take my mind off this - I have patience and stop looking for streteches at a time I feel what I'm doing is right and eventually I'll find a good person. It just kills me how some guys and girls seem to find partners with a snap of the finger. It sucks cause thats why when I'm in a relationship I try my best to keep it going, cause dating really is a challenge for me. I will find a girl eventually.
shayan Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I say you practice talking to every girl you would like to. That's what I am trying. I find that if you only talk to one new girl everyday then your chances are not as likely as if you talk to two or three. And don't disregard any place as a bad area, women can be attracted anywhere as long as you make the right impression (which is not easy, that's why practice! is key) Good luck, honestly don't try too hard. I never hit on girls I just talk to random people, whoever is around girl, guy, whatever, and I am suprised how well a conversation can go and then if I like a girl I will ask for an email or something! Kill yourself a little everyday! Oh know that it will come! be positive
PegNosePete Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 - I don't talk to girls on the subway cause I've tried that and it really doesn't go anywhere LOL... pun intended? I have found that the more you try to get someone, the harder it is. When you stop trying so hard, someone will come into your life naturally. Pretending to stop trying doesn't work, though
jeff2321 Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Don't try to find a girl... Let them find you. If you just went through a break up, how can you even think about getting another girl anyway? I'm 8 weeks post breakup and I can't even stand the thought of a new girl right now. Jeff
Author health Posted October 6, 2010 Author Posted October 6, 2010 I say you practice talking to every girl you would like to. That's what I am trying. I find that if you only talk to one new girl everyday then your chances are not as likely as if you talk to two or three. And don't disregard any place as a bad area, women can be attracted anywhere as long as you make the right impression (which is not easy, that's why practice! is key) Good luck, honestly don't try too hard. I never hit on girls I just talk to random people, whoever is around girl, guy, whatever, and I am suprised how well a conversation can go and then if I like a girl I will ask for an email or something! Kill yourself a little everyday! Oh know that it will come! be positive Cool, I will try that. Thanks, again I appreciate it!
Author health Posted October 6, 2010 Author Posted October 6, 2010 LOL... pun intended? I have found that the more you try to get someone, the harder it is. When you stop trying so hard, someone will come into your life naturally. Pretending to stop trying doesn't work, though Yes, yes I've heard this one a million times before - that's why I give myself a week or whatever hiatus BUT like you said "Pretending to stop trying doesn't work, though" lol I totally agree with that, it's probably me pretending not to look because If I have the opportunity I usually don't let it slip. I have sometimes though. I think I'm gonna follow your advice as well. Thank you so much.
Author health Posted October 6, 2010 Author Posted October 6, 2010 Don't try to find a girl... Let them find you. If you just went through a break up, how can you even think about getting another girl anyway? I'm 8 weeks post breakup and I can't even stand the thought of a new girl right now. Jeff Exactly, that's what I'm doing. Well I'm almost 2 years broken up now, so I try to look - and have found and been with 2 in that time. Like you said though - I'll have them comming to me. I can look at a girl and obsess about the smallest details and fall for her. I would jump at anything she says. It would be amazng to have a girl to that to me again. Thanks for your advice as well!
shayan Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 I agree with the whole, don't try to find a girl deal. But if everyone followed this logic well then uhhh. Well no one would ever pursue anybody! I am more like open to finding and recieving. And what if you do run into a girl you like well what the hell, should you just sit there and wait for them to talk to you what the hell?
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