Dante311 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 I've always been insecure. It's just me. I don't know why. I know what I'm insecure about... but I shouldn't be. And I know the fact I'm insecure about qualities I SHOULDN'T BE and have been told not to... that what I believe ISN'T true is clearly affecting how I present myself and my ability to relate to people. Well it's come to the point I'm self-centered, narcissistic, and conceited subconsciously... and I know that sounds ridiculous, but it's true. My question is are there any books to help me? I see a therapist... but I don't know how much it's helping. I need to get my head out of my ass.
CLC2008 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 If you wonder whether you are a Narcissist, then most likely you aren't one.
GorillaTheater Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 If you wonder whether you are a Narcissist, then most likely you aren't one. I was going to say the same thing based on what little I know about the subject. Dante, do you perceive that you have difficulties being empathetic with people? If you feel you have some kind of personality disorder, has it caused you any difficulties in your personal or professional life?
CLC2008 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 I was going to say the same thing based on what little I know about the subject. Dante, do you perceive that you have difficulties being empathetic with people? If you feel you have some kind of personality disorder, has it caused you any difficulties in your personal or professional life? My cousin's father is one and I believe a male friend of mine from a few years ago, was pretty close to one. We're not friends anymore suffice to say.
GorillaTheater Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 My cousin's father is one and I believe a male friend of mine from a few years ago, was pretty close to one. We're not friends anymore suffice to say. I'm in a profession that seems to attract more than its fair share of folks I'd consider to be narcissistic. The best tactic seems to be to laugh at them. OP, can you laugh at your own screw-ups, or do you do everything you can to hide them? Again, I'm no clinician. I'm just throwing out questions that seem relevant to narcissism, at least as I understand it.
CLC2008 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 I'm in a profession that seems to attract more than its fair share of folks I'd consider to be narcissistic. The best tactic seems to be to laugh at them. OP, can you laugh at your own screw-ups, or do you do everything you can to hide them? Again, I'm no clinician. I'm just throwing out questions that seem relevant to narcissism, at least as I understand it. Well, I do not envy you. I'm not a clinician either, just things I've witnessed, and all I can say is that if anyone finds themself around these sorts of people, take away their narcisstic supply by removing yourself from the situation ASAP.
whichwayisup Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I've always been insecure. It's just me. I don't know why. I know what I'm insecure about... but I shouldn't be. And I know the fact I'm insecure about qualities I SHOULDN'T BE and have been told not to... that what I believe ISN'T true is clearly affecting how I present myself and my ability to relate to people. Well it's come to the point I'm self-centered, narcissistic, and conceited subconsciously... and I know that sounds ridiculous, but it's true. My question is are there any books to help me? I see a therapist... but I don't know how much it's helping. I need to get my head out of my ass. Why do you think therapy isn't helping Dante? What are you insecure about? Please expand on that if you can. You present yourself one way, yet it's perceived differently by others. Is it off putting people or you are realizing the energy you're giving off isn't right?
Author Dante311 Posted October 5, 2010 Author Posted October 5, 2010 I was going to say the same thing based on what little I know about the subject. Dante, do you perceive that you have difficulties being empathetic with people? If you feel you have some kind of personality disorder, has it caused you any difficulties in your personal or professional life? I don't know... I definitely have a bit of a social anxiety and if I am not affluent in a given topic/area of interest.. my ability to converse with people lacks. I am a straight up science nerd, but I love to be social. however in larger atmospheres I'm intimidated for no particular reason other than I fear rejection, but realize this is a commonplace of society. So in short... I don't know? Why do you think therapy isn't helping Dante? What are you insecure about? Please expand on that if you can. You present yourself one way, yet it's perceived differently by others. Is it off putting people or you are realizing the energy you're giving off isn't right? I definitely do not feel the energy I give off is 'right'... I seem to draw in women who are not mentally stable (whether they're legit crazy or rebounding) as I've done with the last 5-6 girls I've attracted and/or dated... heh. See all my previous threads throughout LS. I have Body dismorphic disorder... so I'm self-conscious about that... I'm self conscious when my face breaks out, which isn't often, but when it does.. it drives me nuts. (I'm in bodybuilding... so acne is a common place from time to time) And the one thing I can't even ****ing believe I'm admitting on LS is that I'm very insecure about my penis size. The funny thing is, and take this for however you want... I am WELL above average in length & girth and should have nothing to be insecure about... but... I am. And it sucks. it's strange, but at the same time... not?
whichwayisup Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Say whatever is on your mind this is the one place that you can and noone knows you! I definitely do not feel the energy I give off is 'right'... I seem to draw in women who are not mentally stable (whether they're legit crazy or rebounding) as I've done with the last 5-6 girls I've attracted and/or dated... heh. See all my previous threads throughout LS. Have you been DX'd as a Narcissist or is this just what you think of yourself? Just wondering. I will go back and read some of your older threads. I have Body dismorphic disorder... so I'm self-conscious about that... sorry to hear this. hopefully therapy can help with that. I'm self conscious when my face breaks out, which isn't often, but when it does.. it drives me nuts. (I'm in bodybuilding... so acne is a common place from time to time) Can I ask how old you are? Not that it matters in the sense of breaking out, it can happen to anyone at any age so it's not just a teen thing. And the one thing I can't even ****ing believe I'm admitting on LS is that I'm very insecure about my penis size. The funny thing is, and take this for however you want... I am WELL above average in length & girth and should have nothing to be insecure about... but... I am. And it sucks. Did you have a bad experience with a woman who made you feel self conscious or watch porn, compare yourself to what you saw? it's strange, but at the same time... not? Not really. We all have insecurities, some make sense, some don't. The key is believing in yourself and not letting those fears and insecuries overrule what you know and can see! if you know what I mean..
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