I gave a second chance but I'm still feeling angry!!

[watever12]

My bf of three years and u have gone though our own share of horrible drama. There was a point in time when he wanted to break up with me really bad but I clung on. Eventually one day, he says he wanted to break up because he's been talking to another girl and they hung out once without my knowing. He eventually apologized and said that the reason he did it is because he really just wanted to make me let go. But he realized he regrets the break up hours later. So I gave him a second chance and we got back together. I've been angry for the longest time about his talking to another girl and hanging out behind my back. I feel like I can no longer trust this boy and have addressed the issue multiple times but he says we'll work it out and let time do it's thing. It's been more than half a year since the incident and I still can't get over it! I'm still angry whenever I think about it Snd often think about "doing the same just to show him how it feels." I know it sounds hateful and immature, but I really an troubled with these thoughts and want some advice what can I do to get over this? Was it cheating in a sense what he did? Am I over reacting?

When we were dating/talking a few years back he had also done something similar - going to dinner and movies with a girl behind my back and later telling me he likes her and wanted to end things with me but regretting it hours later .. Is this going to be repetitive? I'm so angry still about both incidences and more than often think about doing the same to him -.-

[Billie The Puppet]

Look if you have to worry if it's happening it's an insecurity. If you wonder who or what he is doing when not around you it will eventually ruin the relationship. You need to trust him if you can't you'll have to end it. See I see it this way give them all the freedom they need if they cheat it will on one way or another get back to you and that's the time to end it.

[Logic]

A few things stand out to me about your situation.

 

Firstly you really feel a lot for this guy. Thats why you've given him a second chance and that's why him going out with another girl hangs over you and makes you feel insecure.

 

Secondly he doesn't appreciate you. Often we don't know how good we've got it until it's gone. Doing it once is a silly mistake, doing it again is him thinking he can do better than you.

 

I'd say break it off. Tell him how you feel first and that you don't think he appreciates you. Then leave and do strictly No Contact. Don't answer his texts or calls just ignore him. Not one word. If he loves you, he'll go out of his mind for a bit. Just let him understand life without you for a couple of weeks. After that you can get back in touch and see if it's worth getting back together. Don't be afraid to let him go. If he's the right one for you then he'll be there when you come back and if he goes then it might hurt but at least you know he would never have stuck by you in the long run.

 

Good luck