juand Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 My gf and I broke up three weeks ago. we were together for three years. This is my first week without looking for her or antyhing and she has not made any intent to get in touch with me ever since we broke up. the only reason we did was because i looked for her.. like three times. I decided to go NC and see what happens, now im just really lost and do not know what to do since i dont want to lose her forever. should i stay with no contact and hope for the best. My mom saw her a few days ago and she asked about me, but my mom didnt say anything. Last thing she said to me was I miss u too, please dont hate me, im just trying to figure out my life..... please help me, should i look for her or should i just give her space.
Ajax Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Last thing she said to me was I miss u too, please dont hate me, im just trying to figure out my life..... please help me, should i look for her or should i just give her space. I think you know the answer to that already. Many many people on here, including myself, have had their ex say the exact same thing. The love you but need to figure their life out. If she wanted to figure her life out and she thought you would be a part of it, she wouldn't have left you. I'm not trying to be hard on you, it's just the way it is. What will contacting her do? She asked you to let her be. Looking for her will only make her run farther away. Let her be. If she comes back on her own, great. But don't count on it. Make plans for yourself, it's all you can do.
j0sh Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Giver her some space dude. Take the opposite approach and devote the time to you! Go to the gym, study/work harder, give yourself a makeover, get a hobby.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I think you know the answer to that already. Many many people on here, including myself, have had their ex say the exact same thing. The love you but need to figure their life out. If she wanted to figure her life out and she thought you would be a part of it, she wouldn't have left you. I'm not trying to be hard on you, it's just the way it is. What will contacting her do? She asked you to let her be. Looking for her will only make her run farther away. Let her be. If she comes back on her own, great. But don't count on it. Make plans for yourself, it's all you can do. This is pretty much what has to be done, yet a lot of us in the same situation still hold onto some sort of hope. As each day passes I tell me self if she hasn't tried by now it's done and over and I already know it's done and over but for some reason I hang onto a little bit of hope. Even with being in NC for a month (I'm on week 5 now) and she hasn't attempted to contact me either I still have some sort of hope with in me. Hope though is something we manufacture ourselves it's our own minds reasoning with our own minds not of our ex's it isn't anything scientifically proven in fact hope has the reverse effect but some time hope gets me through days and other times it completely stops the clock and gets me thinking to much about the ex.
Username37 Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Give her space and work on you. So when you do see her, she'll be like "whoa, he looks so money" Good luck to ya
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