Author someday Posted October 5, 2010 Author Posted October 5, 2010 Owl, I wouldn't mind your ideas. I just thougth that since this is an OW/OM board to discuss my M wouldn't be a great idea. If you want to PM me or maybe I should start a thread in the Relationship section?
NoIDidn't Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Why shouldn't she dislike you based only on "her gut"? Especially since it seems pretty accurate. I'm curious as to why some posters, particularly OW and MM, seem to blame people for their feelings when they are accurate. Its a very interesting behavior.
Author someday Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 I never said she shouldn't dislike me and I've never blamed her for her feelings.
Dexter Morgan Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 …..please, please, please just be good to him. He wants you, you have him- appreciate him so he can appreciate you. be good to a cheater? ya, thats a good one. appreciate a cheater? pulease. he isn't a prize for anyone. She'd do better to kick him out and move on to a better man. This is why men get away with cheating. Women fawn all over them as a prize to be had, and they know they can always get away with it unscathed because women think they are to be appreciated, no matter how lousy of a man they are.
Author someday Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 With all due respect, Dexter, you really have no idea who this man is, or what has been going on in his life, her life, or my life. He was her AP when she was cheating on her H, and he was her BS when she cheeated on him with her xH. The two time cheater is her not him. He and I have never done more than talk to one another...and hold hands this past summer- which was a huge mistake.
Dexter Morgan Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 With all due respect, Dexter, you really have no idea who this man is, or what has been going on in his life, her life, or my life. if he is a cheater, thats all I need to know. He was her AP when she was cheating on her H, and he was her BS when she cheeated on him with her xH. The two time cheater is her not him. then my comments will stand two-fold for her then.
Author someday Posted October 8, 2010 Author Posted October 8, 2010 if he is a cheater, thats all I need to know. Yes, I suppose it's easier for you this way.
Dexter Morgan Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Yes, I suppose it's easier for you this way. you bet
SummerLady Posted October 8, 2010 Posted October 8, 2010 Did she know who you are? If so, then maybe she was trying to blow smoke up your tuckus. If not...maybe she really does believe that things are "that good"? Which (to me) would be an indicator that things aren't as they're being portrayed to you. I don't recall your story, friend, and I'm not picking a fight. I'm just curious why you'd get such a different picture from her...ESPECIALLY if she thought you were a stranger with no vested interest...than you get from elsewhere? Anytime anyone goes on and on about how happyily they are married is a huge indicator that they are not happy. If you are happily married you don't have to go on and on about it with anyone you are just happy. I have seen this with women that were in horrible marriages. Sometimes I knew and other times I found out afterwards...
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