rebeccajones Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 It helps me to read everyone's posts. I recently broke up with my ex after almost 2 years. It was somewhat mutual, he too seems lost and we are at different places. I have my career, I'm active and he was not at a good place, it wore on me that he was not working, although he had some money. I needed more and he is not willing to step up or maybe he can't right now. It's only been 3 weeks. I just deleted him and his family from facebook. He is almost done moving all his stuff out (he had alot). I will probably be moving from my house and starting a new life. My family was shocked and sad. I too will have to take it day by day. I am not pining for him, I am somewhat angry because he seemed to blame things on me and he does not see that he too was not perfect. I don't know if I will see him move his last things out or not. We have not been communicating and soon he will be completely gone. Sometimes it is hard to believe and sometimes there's an ounce of hope something will change, but I know I have to move on. I'm glad this board is here so that we can help each other through this . I want to keep this thread updated. I wish us all well.
bonpaw2008 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Welcome Rebecca! You sound like you are in a good place, and you deserve to be angry if he is blaming everything on you. The people that know you know the truth, so try to put that behind you. Keep working on yourself and you will get through this. Best of luck!
Author rebeccajones Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 Thanks BonPaw I have my days. Best of luck to you also.
Author rebeccajones Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 I have a question. We broke up, he is moving out as I stated, but throughout this process he has been very nonchalant. I have not been begging or pleading and I also do not contact him nor am I desperate to (maybe once). We have talked and I told him basically how I felt, he told me he is focusing on moving and told me how I would make him feel bad in the relationship and always fight with him. To me it seems he is wanting to make me the bad guy. I got upset sometimes over things but we usually had good times. He just seems to be ok with everything. Is he hiding his feelings? Maybe it is just his personality, free spirit, independent. Any help is appreciated!
pandagirl Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 I have a question. We broke up, he is moving out as I stated, but throughout this process he has been very nonchalant. I have not been begging or pleading and I also do not contact him nor am I desperate to (maybe once). We have talked and I told him basically how I felt, he told me he is focusing on moving and told me how I would make him feel bad in the relationship and always fight with him. To me it seems he is wanting to make me the bad guy. I got upset sometimes over things but we usually had good times. He just seems to be ok with everything. Is he hiding his feelings? Maybe it is just his personality, free spirit, independent. Any help is appreciated! I'm sure he is upset, to what extent, who know. Some people are good at hiding their feelings. When my boyfriend broke up with me, he was like a robot. I knew he cared about me, but from his display of emotions, it seemed like it was the easiest thing in the world for him to deal with. Finally in our last conversation, I said: "I can't even tell what you're feeling. You're like a robot." His reply was: "Just because I appear one way, doesn't mean it's true." So I said, "So you are sad...?" and he said: "Yes, yes I am."
Author rebeccajones Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 Yea I believe that he is upset and I believe he has a sensitive heart, but the decision has been made and it's hard for us both. He just wont express it. I can't really assume though and I'd rather be angry now to help me move on. I can't know for sure exactly what he feels. Thanks Panda.
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